The Untold Story

Over the recent years romance scams have got more prevalent on the internet. The scam differs from the 419 Nigerian Scams that are known in society as the “get rich scam”. This type of scam is more personal because there are no financial gains for the victim as in the 419 scams. Although dating sites are easily assessable by allowing singles to meet in a geographic area, online daters are at risk of becoming victims of romance scams because individuals are unaware of these scams, the inability to spot the red flags in dating profiles and also their lack of online safety practices.

 

 

The romance scammers originate from Nigeria are a well organized group of males reading from successful tested scripts who work in cafes or warehouses. Anna Alden- Tirrill confirms the romance scam organization is running a 20 billion a year business and also they have been associated with terrorist cells.

Dating sites is offering a service to individuals where they can be matched with others around the world or locally. Most dating sites claim they have complete annuity in regards to offering profile options as not in disclosing your real name, email address, your location, also by offering a delete/ignore button. The sites are inexpensive to participate and they advertise healthy, attractive individual success stories. A few dating site over the past couple years has added a clause about online scammers and claim no responsibility regarding profiles posted. Dating sites is disinterested in removing a scammer profile or offering the member assistance when a scam occurs. The bottom line is profit.

 

Unsuspecting individuals who are contacted over the internet through dating sites by these scammers are from all walks of life. Profiles on dating sites can be attractive, informative, interesting and the biggest misconception individuals have are what you see in the profile are true facts. Scammer profiles can be difficult to spot unless you know what red flags to look for. Users have an ideal person they are looking for whether it’s an attractive individual, common interest, common geographic location, friends and hobbies.

 

The Common Scammer Red Flags

  • Profile picture looks professionally done
  • Height/weight is not proportional -e.g. 6’ and 95 lbs
  • Claim to be Native American or some other ethnicity when the photo is Caucasian
  • Claim to be older/younger than the photo looks
  • Grammar is not consistent with how Americans speak, French speak etc.
  • Profile seems cut and pasted
  • Spelling is atrocious, they are notorious for using “i” instead of “I”
  • Their full name is two first names – John Michele, Florence Francis, Shawn David
  • They typically claim to be from the US (or your local region) but they are overseas, or going overseas mainly to Nigeria, sometimes the UK for business or family matters
  • A majority of them claim to have lost a spouse/child/parent in a horrific traffic accident or airplane accident or any of the above are sick or in the hospital
  • The details they give you in email/IM are often different that what was stated in the profile
  • Their profile seems to disappear off the website immediately after conversation begin

Scammers can be clever with their words, usually the text of the message is cut and pasted or they can be sloppy in their text as the email below shows. The email is an example of “scammer grammar” the misspelled words, and the short abbreviations of words.

Example Scammer First Contact Email

I would really love to know as much as i can about you.
Well i think i have to tell you more about myself.I’m
mixed,dad from
Belgium while mum from USA.I was born
and grew up in
Belgium before i move to the states.I’m
an civil engineerwell am in
Nigeria now working on a
contract but i will going back to the statessoon.
I dont have children, though i was married but i lost
my wife on a car accidnt
I also attach couple of my
photos on this email i hope you like them.I would also
want you to send me some photos
I really like your
profile and it was nice.I have never done this before also
.

Have a nice and great day. Hope to hear from you soon

 

 

Scammers will pose under the disguise of beautiful pictures as either male or female claiming to be from the United States. The scammer weaves a story of a successful business person working over seas, having no family; they present themselves as a thoughtful, caring and loving individual who is looking for their soul mate. The scammers are good at what they do; they ask lots of questions of the victim regarding what they want in their lives. The scammer then takes the information and turns it into a dream that becomes a reality to the victim. Once they have established a relationship then the scamming begins. In all cases the plea for finical assistance is the key to the scam. This can be for assistance in cashing a check that they are unable to cash themselves and also asking for financial assistance to help them out of a difficulty they are having.

 

The victim then feels a need to help the one they love either they send money or deposit checks in their bank accounts. The scam continues until the bank discovers the checks as frauds or the victim realizes they have been deceived. The scammer will then attempt to sweet talk the victim, turn it around on the victim saying “how can you not trust me” or threaten the victims’ life. Romance scams touch many online users in tragic ways such as victims being arrested and prosecuted; but also many have lost their jobs, homes, vehicles, and life savings.

 

Online users think this will not happen to them and their conceptions are that they are not stupid enough to fall for it. They believe only the over weight, low self esteem, and uneducated fall for these types of scams. Most individuals do not understand the physiological aspect of these scams, how the scammers are educated and trained to do them. Barb Sluppick owner of the Romance Scams Organization and leading expert in the Nigerian romance scams, points out the Romance Scams Organization has assisted close to 27,000 on line users in little over two years, the scams have affected thousands of people and they have helped individuals
from all walks of life in recovering from being scammed.

What can also be easily taught and needs to be taught to online users are the safety steps to take when on the internet. With the increase in dating sites, social sites and blog sites the internet user opens their self up to be targeted not only by a scammer but also risk identity theft. Individuals are less cautious on the internet because they feel safe in their own homes. Users will in a matter of short conversations give their name, location, birth date, what they do for a living, their children names, what car they drive, will post their pictures; use their full name in emails, blog about their needs and desires whether they intend to be public about it or not and never realize they gave detailed facts about their lives.

 

These unsafe practices do not occur in the public work place, shopping mall or bar, because individuals are more cautious in face to face contacts. With continual personal information given freely which leads to the risk of being targeted for Identity theft? Annie McGuire from Fraudaid an organization that works with fraud victims acknowledges that a scammer will take the information given to them and will do the following in the victims name; open a credit card, access banking accounts, open an online business, and wreak havoc on the victim’s life.

 

 

Romance scammers continual pursuit of online users will remain as long as individuals have the illusion of safety and security online. The only way for online users to be safe is to accept the dangers that are among us and proceed with caution.

 

 


123 Responses to The Untold Story

  1. Rose D. says:

    Dear Romance Scams,
    I am certain that the “relationship” that I’m in right this very moment is a scam. I found out thru a friend that the “man” who I was supposively to be getting married and then all of the suddent he became missing while in AFG. He’s supposively to be a LT Col in the USMC, 4 days before he was to get out of the military, he and his so-called copilot went up on his cobra helio, and my so-called fiancee’s cousin contacted me thru IM using my fiancee’s sign on, anyway.. his cobra went out of radar and the military didnt find the wreckage until 2 days later.. anyway getting straight to the point.. my girlfriend found my “fiancee’s” email address under the nigerian scam list… I already had some little doubt about my “fiancee” but I wanted so bad that he was real, because I have grown to have deep feelings for him… when my girlfriend told me about him, I was so hurt and angry at the same time.. The reason why I didnt believe that it was any sort of scam, because my fiance never once asked me for money or anything, in fact he had his family send 3 pkgs., during the 8 1/2 mos ., that we were “chatting”. But, when his cousin approached me about my fiancee, he told me that he thinks that he’s a POW and that he might be held for ransom and that he’s going out to Afg to find out what has happened to him.. He teasingly told me that it would cost 2million dollars and asked if I want to go half in the cost of finding him.. I got so pissed off and told him, your cousin knows that I have nothing!!! I also told him that his cousin knows that I have screwed credit and I cant even get a checking account and I have no credit cards, besides that I told the cousin that my fiancee states that he’s worth millions, why dont they pull the money from that. Then I also told him, why cant the military go and find him? Hell, he’s a friggin high rank officer.. the cousin then backs down… You see, in the very beginning of my internet relationship, I was always very outspoken and told the truth about myself, so my “fiancee” already knows that he cant get crap from me… I am still in contact with his “cousin” and I told my girlfriend that at first I want to tell his ass off and that I know everything. But, then I thought, I want this piece of low lifes caught… I dont think they know that I suspect them of anything.. I am writing to you, to ask for advise or if you could direct me to the right people about how to go about catching this people.. Also, I have 2 known mailing addresses for my fiancee’s cousin and he supposively to have an uncle who lives 1 1/2 hrs., away from where I live, and the cousin about 3 1/2 hrs. I know that, because when I rec’vd the pkgs., they wrote their address on the box and envelope, but never have a name on it… One address is a resident and the other is a box address… I sent my so-called fiancees sisters christmas cards last year and I had a return receipt put on, I just wanted to make sure that when the uncle rec’vd the xmas cards.. his sisters all live in different areas, so I thought I would send it to their uncle and he could give it to them… The cousin, I sent him a card to his box, but that hasnt been picked up yet, because he states that he’s still in the middle east, but that card, I sent it certified, to where he has to sign and if i recall how the postal service works, I think he might have to show proper I.D? I need to confirm that with my mailman… Anyway, I decided not to expose myself to these people just yet, I want them to think that I am still so in love with him… But, could you please give me or direct me to someone on how to go about catching these people… Dear Romance Scam, my girlfriend told me that if these people already know my financial situation, maybe this guy who is suppose to be my fiancee probably does have feelings for me and that I entertain him or them a great deal.. my girlfriend thinks its because I am different, for I am very outspoken and I hate to say this, but if I want to be healed from my broken heart, because it did break, because I have grown to “love” this man who is “suppose” to be my “fiancee”. For what I am about to say, its so embarassing, but here goes, we were intimiate online… my girlfriend really thinks that this guy probably does like me… but, I dont care anymore, even though it still hurts, but the friggin asshole needs to be caught and he needs to know that one just doesn’t mess with peoples emotions like that… My girlfriend just found out about his email address being a scam, because she heard me for the past almost 9 mos., of being so happy and she noticed that certain things just werent adding up, and she still wasnt going to say anything until I told her about how he and his copilot went down in his cobra. Thats when she said, “Oh no” because apparently she’s read articles and then saw something on Ophra about romance scam and then she discussed it with her husband whether to tell me or not.. If she didnt tell me, god knows how much longer this will go one.. but, you see… I never really had 100% good feeling about him, for their were too many things that didnt add up… I might have felt that he was really real at 99.9%, but there was that 00.1% ningling doubt. Its always that tiny seed of doubt that wouldnt go away that kept me wary..

    Anyway, there’s really more to this “romance relationship” because we were involved with each other for almost 9 mos.

    Please, help me with some advice or direct me to the proper people or agencies, whatever.. I just need guidance and directions on how to go about catching them.

    Sincerely,
    Rose D.
    Monterey, CA

    PS:
    Right now, I dont want to give out my full name until I get a response. Please, try to understand…

    • sjp says:

      Hi, I want to share my story… (please understand my broken English..English is my second language, but I really really want to share my story..)
      About a month ago..I got a friend request on my Facebook. I usually do not accept unknown’s request, but I don’t know why I accepted that. I was very emotional that day. Anyway, as soon as I accepted his friend request, he sent me a message on Facebook. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and moved to another city for job, I am alone, so lonely and did overtime everyday. But there’s no one I could talk. So, I was glad someone talked to me. and sometime you feel better when you talk with random people,, you know.. you don’t have think about anything just talking and you can talk anything that sometimes you can’t talk to your family or friends.
      So.. we were talking about my ex and his ex blah blah blah. He said, he is originally from California, but not lives in Austrailia. He is an engineer and a contractor. We talked a couple of days, and he said he is so into me. One day, he said he is going to Malaysia to finish his on going project. I told him safe trip, and he asked my phone number. At first, I didn’t want to give my number, I asked him it is safe? and I think he didn’t get what that mean. Anyway, at the end I gave my number to him. Next day, I got a phone call from random number. I answered, and it was him. We had a little conversation. He said he was originally from US and lived in UK for 5yrs, but had some accent. His English is good, but def not from US or UK. Later night, he left message on my Facebook. Later he send me some message through the mobile app, which is called Kakao Talk.(it’s a Korean App, most Korean use this app. I am Korean) It was very surprised he sent me some messages through that. I asked him how did you know about this, and he siad he googled it. Everyday, we sent messages and used voice talk.
      I wasn’t really into him because I’d never met him in person, but he seemed like he was so into me.
      One day, he told me he decided come to NY to meet me. He said he is so in love with me. But, I was so skeptical when he talked about love, our relationship and our future. I told him that’s too early, I really don’t want to talk about that until we meet in person.
      Everyday, he said he loves me so much, can’t wait to meet me blah blah blah. I didn’t believe everything, but if you are woman someone tells you everyday like admire my appearance and care every single things about me. I bet you will get into that person little by little. That day he was supposed to come he said he had to stay one more week to finish his work.
      Last Tuesday,, November 10th. I woke up and check my phone, he left some messages and with his paycheck image. He said finally he got his paycheck and he is coming here soon. I will go to the bank next day, deposit his check and do some shopping and fly to NY. His paycheck was 265,00usd. I ddin’t understand why he sent me his check image. I didn’t really care how much he makes. As soon as I saw the image.. I could feel something bad. But I just told him get some rest, at the same time, somehow I was really looking foward seeing him. He was very nice and so sweet to me. I really wanted to see him in person. But on Wednesday, it was about 4am, I got so many messages from him. I was right. He tried to deposit his check, but he couldn’t. He had to pay the tax first then the bank could release his money to his account. When he came to Malaysia he brought 14000usd in cash now he had only 5000. The tax is appx. 7500 and he was short 2500. He was shouting and yelled all day at the bank to deposit his check, but the bank would’t let him do it. I checked message and text him back, and he called me. He almost cried and sobbed. I told him can you called your bank or credit card company? and he said he always uses cash when he travel and never acesse his bank account while he’s in abroad. Which I could never understand. I traveled a lot, and I have so many friends who travels and works in abroad. Also, I always prepare for the worst case when I travel abroad. I am not saying I know everything, but at least I know when I have any problem in oversea I know what I have to do in practical way like call to the company where he worked for, go back to your home and come back to Malaysia with the money, call to your accountant, go find a lawyer who is non-Malaysian or call to the embassy etc… I gave him many suggestions, and he said he can’t, he said, you don’t understand me. He said I am the only close person to me….How? we just met in Facebook and never met
      Later he told me to help him 2500 dollars. If I send the money to him he will wire the money before he leaves Malaysia. I am the person help people very often when people need help, but I barely help people in financially unless I donate to Unicef. Even sometimes, my parents ask for money I rarely give them. So, I told him, I am so sorry I can’t help you. I feel so bad now, but I can’t. He said it’s okay he will find the way that he can get the money. I really wanted to help him in other ways, so I googled about tax law in Malaysia. and I sent some links to him. He said he was doing it too. Whenever I googled and read something, everything didn’t make sense to me. The amount of Tax and.. just everything. This morning, he text me again, he talked to the bank manager and he offered him, he could give him 1000 usd for 5000. So, now he need 1500 usd more. I told him you gave him more than half of the tax and only got 1000? and then, he wanted me to find any person can help him 1500 dollars. I didn’t want to ask any of my friends about this. So I told him which city he was staying now, so I could talk to any Asian friends or Malaysian friends who can help him better. I kept googling about this situation,, and I found here..
      After I read many stories.. I text him.

      “Hey, I guess you’re still sleeping. I really sorry but I have to tell you this. I feel so stupid now. But good thing is I’ve through so many things in my life and today I’ve learnt one more thing. Ever since we started talking.. And past 3days there are so many things doesn’t make sense to me. But I didn’t ask every single things to you because I didn’t want to. I’ve never met you, so there was no point for that. I just tried to understand you but I couldn’t. And when you sent me your check image I had a bad feeling and I was right. Everything went as my scenario as I imagined. I don’t want to waste my time and energy on this. If you want to do something internationally, you need to be smarter and prepare more. If you can’t do it better please go find another job.
      If I am completely wrong, I’m so sorry I don’t mean to hurt your feeling. But I have to do this. If I hurt your feeling I will apologize when we have a chance to meet in person.”

      honestly.. this..little bit hurt my feeling.. somehow.. past a month, I wasn’t in love him, but I felt that I am not alone. Now I feel.. I am alone again.. I do believe it will go away soon. At the same time, I really appreciate to my ex. He always worried about me that I was so nice to everyone and very naive( in his point of view). He always told me that I need to think back whenever people say something. Do not believe everyhing they say. When you hear about a story you have to keep asking yourself how and why. then, you can find that the person is lying or not. Also, he said anything I am not sure about then find a right answer by myself. I’ve learnt from today, learnd from the past a month. Life is never ending learning process.
      This whole week, I could not focus on my work… so as soon as I got back home. I am writing my story to here. Hopefully, tomorrow, I can focus on my work.. and not giving up to find a right person for my life.
      Thank you.

      oh by the way, FYI his name is Raynold Douglas Hudson.

    • LaraC says:

      Please post his details as much as you can, email address, phone number used etc. This will help potential victims to search online and read your post so that they will be saved. One revenge you can do and one healing for you that you helped someone. 🙂

      • Sade Watkins says:

        I want you ladies to know I have been I have been through something similar, for the past few weeks I have been talking to a man. He says his name Clerk Kent 51years old from new Orleans.He lost both of his parents. He is a widower, and has a 5year old son. He feel in love with me the first few days we talked. We he do he talk through facebook , text message and email. He email me the first time about this life and he write me love letters every single morning. He wanted to do his criminal work through email. I told him in the beginning that I didn’t want any money from him or nobody. So he didn’t ask me for money directly but he claims he was sending me money for our wedding and our life savings 200,000 dollars and some electronics. He was also sending a engagement ring and a necklace.He kept calling it a package and da it had a box that’s where the money was he says it was coming through a diplomatic delivery service. I was not count on it just as sure he said in order for them to send it they needed my email address , phone number, and home address. When I was gonna get it he said he sent it and the delivery service was gonna contact me by email. He emailed me the next day so called to tell me that he sent and what he sent. I waited all night for a email it came through at like 3 am after I ask where is it. He waited the next day to ask did I reply to them he kept trying to get me to tell to them. The email didn’t look rich so I questioned him about it he was talking lil it was a business and made up so many excuses about why he couldn’t contact them. I finally til him I didn’t want it nor did I want anything from him. He got so upset and called me wicked and evil. I was hurt and disappointed he because I thought I had found the one true love. If someone could help me I wanted to expose this scumbag. He sent me pictures of a man and his child claiming it was him I feel sorry for the both of them.

      • RomanceScams says:

        Hello Sade. I am happy to see you have joined our Yahoo email group. I know you will find understanding, support and information that will help you. Right now, you need to know that there are an estimated 8 million of these scammers in the world, most concentrated in Nigeria and Ghana. Some of them have advanced degrees but instead of working in their are of study, they choose to scam people out of their money. This is because pay in Negeria is very low between $220 and $3,600 a year. Often this pay is withheld or detained. So you can see how joyful they are when they can scam even $500 from innocent victims in a few days or weeks – it is more than a year’s pay. They work 24/7 at their scamming and are very knowledgeable in technology, personal profiling, brainwashing and building an illusion of love.

        It is understandable you want justice and to expose the scammers (they work in groups, not individually, working many victims at a time. This is the reason they use terms like Hon, Baby, Sweetie, and Silly girl; they don’t want to accidentally use the name of a different person they are working on.) The reason it is near impossible to catch any of these men is that we don’t have any information about them that is true. Phone numbers are spoofed, made using the Internet instead of communication providers. They can make calls seem to be coming from anywhere in the world that suits their purposes. The photos they use are stolen from social media and modeling sites. In some cases, several pictures are altered with programs like Photoshop, so matches cannot be found using reverse image searching. Names are made up. Because their own names follow patterns unlike most other places they frequently use a first name that is commonly a last name. So you have “Clerk Kent, William David, Steven Frank. These names are disposable or interchangable. Again – nothing is true.

        In your case they are working a Romance Scam based on an advanced fee fraud. This is where you must send money to get money or presents shipped to you. Either those packages never show up or they contain counterfeit checks/money orders and goods either stolen or purchased through stolen credit cards or identity theft.

        Most of these scam groups have ties to terrorist organizations. They do not hesitate to get angry and mean, as you found out, if their victims don’t cooperate. They will try to blackmail and threaten the victims. The truth of those frightening words is that they do not want to spend time or money on anything except scamming more and more victims. If these tactics don’t work, they will usually give up and sell your contact information to other scammers who will wait a while, then approach you again.

        As I said, you will find advice and help in dealing with the emotional affects of this crime. You will get information on military scams and how to report them. Everyone in the group has been scammed or is trying to help a close friend who is being scammed. So we understand and want to help!

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  3. Cathy Ellington says:

    I would like to share a little about my scam. I think I had an added twist. When my guy didn’t show at the airport my daughter sent my ex-ex son in law to my house and copied every email I had sent to three different men and everything they had sent to me. He also had the last 2 mailed forwarded to his computer . You might ask yourself why. Well, if this hadn’t done enough to make me furious , my privacy invaded like that. My ex son in law fabricated a romance scam using the emails Mark had sent to me. He changed a few phone numbers and in this scam the lady told him to go get screwed. He put this on the web site romancescam.com
    He then directed my daughters to it. I called Mark and he couldn’t believe it.
    Of course he was surprised as was I . I got to investigating it and first found where pat Perry said the plane ticket was phoney she was wrong . The plane ticket was the one mark sent to me and I know the ticket was real because I was at the airport and it was mark who didn’t come In not the plane . I got to looking at the ticket and Patrick had done a very poor job recreating the ticket. I found other things. It wasn’t until later when I went to his house and retrieved all my email that I found the typed word document he submitted .
    My point is this . The part where they try and separate you from the family didn’t need to be done by them .
    My family had already done a good job of that . I felt so guilty for what had been done to mark. I was completely on his side and thought if they had to go to those extremes to prove him a fraud then he had to have been real .
    We talked about it and the only way to stop this was to get him home . So that is what I tried to do. This has been a nightmare . My family betrayed my trust and stole private information . They called the police on me and my youngest daughter went viral and plastered it all over Facebook. I just wanted help . I was disowned by my kids and grandkids that were 9 years old sending me text say on grandpa would sure b disappointed in me. My late husband.
    I would go out at 2or 3 to get groceries because I didn’t want to be seen.
    It was terrible and I have really suffered. Both emotionally and financially .

  4. Jess says:

    Hi. I have a different scam. A foreigner came here to this country and we met. We dated many years here and eventually he became a citizen. He told me he loved me, etc. I was young at the time but over the years grew older. Then when I had a health problem, he leaves me. He could see I would not be able to work (at that time) due to my sudden disability. He treated me like an investment, not love. Give me this, to get my love. These people take and take – online or in person, be careful. Someone (especially a man) will never EVER ask a women for money, in any format. He would want to take care of his girl, buy her nice things, treat her so well. He won’t ask for money for rent, or food, or anything.

  5. Eleanor Lamberti says:

    I have just come.through a heart breaking experience that is exactly as you describe in this article. I thought I had found my soul mate. I am 61 years old been alone after 22 years of marriage. This has been such a heartbreaking and humiliating experience for me. I have never dated online. He found me on fb. Immediately after I accepted he disappeared after requesting my email address. Luckily I have no money so there was none to loose. So sad. If I had read this article while speaking to this non existent lover I still would not have had the strength to end it.

  6. Nancy Rodne says:

    I suffered an absolute terrible scams in 2011 and 2012. two different men-one from Nigeria for sure claimed to be in Austria and widowed with a teenage son. He was supposed to be an Ocenaographer and Oil Well Engineer out in the Atlantic when working. He took me for over $300,000 then the next one claimed same as first that they both owned a home in Dallas or Southern Texas. He then claimed he was widowed with a teenage daughter. Professional pics but I was extremely heartbroken from my Minister Husband leaving me for someone 18 years younger after 23 years together. I was completely abandooned. Plus my kids were not there for me. Grown daughters with families of their own. Several lived nearby. He claimed to get a job building Windturbines in London. He took me for over $300,000 also. Both claimed to love me. come home to Aloha, OR and marry me. They were very conveincing. My daughters took Conservatorship of me and then a horrible woman from Courts took over who never paid my bills on time and I just did get what little money I had left last year after the rotten Judge-now retired in Washington County Oregon made ME PAY for 5 different attorneys and this horrible person who was suppose to be a professional and work with me. Ha!! My ex-husband and I had worked very hard in our church and I never expected him to do this. He cheated me out of his pension money and is spending it like crazy on new wife. I have absolutely been violated in almost every single way possible. God finely brought an absolutely wonderful REAL person into my life 3 years ago and we are now happily married. My daughters and I are healing slowly. I lost all my self esteem; most of my money, my hopes and dreams for myself, my new husband, my children and my grandchildren. I’ve turned this over to the Portland, OR FBI repeatedly. Every time I find anything new I hope they can use I send it too them. I know for a fact: Both these men did this to many many women. My ex-husband had never allowed me to have a laptop and he controlled me so much I had NO Idea what kind of people were really out there. Namely Nigerian Scammers and I do believe they are affilitated with ISIS.

    • LaraC says:

      Please post his details as much as you can, email address, phone number used etc. This will help potential victims to search online and read your post so that they will be saved. One revenge you can do and one healing for you that you helped someone. 🙂

  7. Lucky Escape says:

    I have just had a lucky escape. After some time living the single life, I joined an online dating site. I was recently contacted by man claiming to be an USMC First Sergeant currently on active duty, close to retirement. No wife (‘lost’), child in boarding school.
    My loneliness overrode my sense for a little while, but I did have to come to my senses, but only after I told him everything about myself (pictures, phone numbers). I am very embarrassed, but relieved that I eventually googled the hell out of him and stumbled upon military romance scams….well, my goodness….this guy fit the profile to a tee! I took the advice and immediately blocked and deleted. The picture he used (also a victim) was very attractive of course.
    My interest waned when he answered questions that I had asked him with bible passages, also when he pushed certain issues when I had clearly said no. He wanted to send me a package (his), but I would collect it…that is when the alarm bells started ringing. So, even though I was foolish enough to be blinded by the attention, and treat my life like an open book, I am glad I got out of this before I got in too deep. My heart goes out to all of you (male and female alike) who have been victims – even those whose images have been used for such a dishonest purpose.
    I remain thankful that I was only singed….and not burned.
    So what happens now….I do not know; I only hope that I have learned my lesson.

    • LaraC says:

      Please post his details as much as you can, email address, phone number used etc. This will help potential victims to search online and read your post so that they will be saved. One revenge you can do and one healing for you that you helped someone. 🙂

  8. sjp says:

    Hi, I want to share my story… (please understand my broken English..English is my second language, but I really really want to share my story..)
    About a month ago..I got a friend request on my Facebook. I usually do not accept unknown’s request, but I don’t know why I accepted that. I was very emotional that day. Anyway, as soon as I accepted his friend request, he sent me a message on Facebook. I recently broke up with my boyfriend and moved to another city for job, I am alone, so lonely and did overtime everyday. But there’s no one I could talk. So, I was glad someone talked to me. and sometime you feel better when you talk with random people,, you know.. you don’t have think about anything just talking and you can talk anything that sometimes you can’t talk to your family or friends.
    So.. we were talking about my ex and his ex blah blah blah. He said, he is originally from California, but not lives in Austrailia. He is an engineer and a contractor. We talked a couple of days, and he said he is so into me. One day, he said he is going to Malaysia to finish his on going project. I told him safe trip, and he asked my phone number. At first, I didn’t want to give my number, I asked him it is safe? and I think he didn’t get what that mean. Anyway, at the end I gave my number to him. Next day, I got a phone call from random number. I answered, and it was him. We had a little conversation. He said he was originally from US and lived in UK for 5yrs, but had some accent. His English is good, but def not from US or UK. Later night, he left message on my Facebook. Later he send me some message through the mobile app, which is called Kakao Talk.(it’s a Korean App, most Korean use this app. I am Korean) It was very surprised he sent me some messages through that. I asked him how did you know about this, and he siad he googled it. Everyday, we sent messages and used voice talk.
    I wasn’t really into him because I’d never met him in person, but he seemed like he was so into me.
    One day, he told me he decided come to NY to meet me. He said he is so in love with me. But, I was so skeptical when he talked about love, our relationship and our future. I told him that’s too early, I really don’t want to talk about that until we meet in person.
    Everyday, he said he loves me so much, can’t wait to meet me blah blah blah. I didn’t believe everything, but if you are woman someone tells you everyday like admire my appearance and care every single things about me. I bet you will get into that person little by little. That day he was supposed to come he said he had to stay one more week to finish his work.
    Last Tuesday,, November 10th. I woke up and check my phone, he left some messages and with his paycheck image. He said finally he got his paycheck and he is coming here soon. I will go to the bank next day, deposit his check and do some shopping and fly to NY. His paycheck was 265,00usd. I ddin’t understand why he sent me his check image. I didn’t really care how much he makes. As soon as I saw the image.. I could feel something bad. But I just told him get some rest, at the same time, somehow I was really looking foward seeing him. He was very nice and so sweet to me. I really wanted to see him in person. But on Wednesday, it was about 4am, I got so many messages from him. I was right. He tried to deposit his check, but he couldn’t. He had to pay the tax first then the bank could release his money to his account. When he came to Malaysia he brought 14000usd in cash now he had only 5000. The tax is appx. 7500 and he was short 2500. He was shouting and yelled all day at the bank to deposit his check, but the bank would’t let him do it. I checked message and text him back, and he called me. He almost cried and sobbed. I told him can you called your bank or credit card company? and he said he always uses cash when he travel and never acesse his bank account while he’s in abroad. Which I could never understand. I traveled a lot, and I have so many friends who travels and works in abroad. Also, I always prepare for the worst case when I travel abroad. I am not saying I know everything, but at least I know when I have any problem in oversea I know what I have to do in practical way like call to the company where he worked for, go back to your home and come back to Malaysia with the money, call to your accountant, go find a lawyer who is non-Malaysian or call to the embassy etc… I gave him many suggestions, and he said he can’t, he said, you don’t understand me. He said I am the only close person to me….How? we just met in Facebook and never met
    Later he told me to help him 2500 dollars. If I send the money to him he will wire the money before he leaves Malaysia. I am the person help people very often when people need help, but I barely help people in financially unless I donate to Unicef. Even sometimes, my parents ask for money I rarely give them. So, I told him, I am so sorry I can’t help you. I feel so bad now, but I can’t. He said it’s okay he will find the way that he can get the money. I really wanted to help him in other ways, so I googled about tax law in Malaysia. and I sent some links to him. He said he was doing it too. Whenever I googled and read something, everything didn’t make sense to me. The amount of Tax and.. just everything. This morning, he text me again, he talked to the bank manager and he offered him, he could give him 1000 usd for 5000. So, now he need 1500 usd more. I told him you gave him more than half of the tax and only got 1000? and then, he wanted me to find any person can help him 1500 dollars. I didn’t want to ask any of my friends about this. So I told him which city he was staying now, so I could talk to any Asian friends or Malaysian friends who can help him better. I kept googling about this situation,, and I found here..
    After I read many stories.. I text him.

    “Hey, I guess you’re still sleeping. I really sorry but I have to tell you this. I feel so stupid now. But good thing is I’ve through so many things in my life and today I’ve learnt one more thing. Ever since we started talking.. And past 3days there are so many things doesn’t make sense to me. But I didn’t ask every single things to you because I didn’t want to. I’ve never met you, so there was no point for that. I just tried to understand you but I couldn’t. And when you sent me your check image I had a bad feeling and I was right. Everything went as my scenario as I imagined. I don’t want to waste my time and energy on this. If you want to do something internationally, you need to be smarter and prepare more. If you can’t do it better please go find another job.
    If I am completely wrong, I’m so sorry I don’t mean to hurt your feeling. But I have to do this. If I hurt your feeling I will apologize when we have a chance to meet in person.”

    honestly.. this..little bit hurt my feeling.. somehow.. past a month, I wasn’t in love him, but I felt that I am not alone. Now I feel.. I am alone again.. I do believe it will go away soon. At the same time, I really appreciate to my ex. He always worried about me that I was so nice to everyone and very naive( in his point of view). He always told me that I need to think back whenever people say something. Do not believe everyhing they say. When you hear about a story you have to keep asking yourself how and why. then, you can find that the person is lying or not. Also, he said anything I am not sure about then find a right answer by myself. I’ve learnt from today, learnd from the past a month. Life is never ending learning process.
    This whole week, I could not focus on my work… so as soon as I got back home. I am writing my story to here. Hopefully, tomorrow, I can focus on my work.. and not giving up to find a right person for my life.
    Thank you.

    oh by the way, FYI his name is Raynold Douglas Hudson.

    • LaraC says:

      Please post his details as much as you can, email address, phone number used etc. This will help potential victims to search online and read your post so that they will be saved. One revenge you can do and one healing for you that you helped someone. 🙂

  9. Marion Julius says:

    I was contacted by this scammer named Henry Organ he was harassing me bullying me online pestering me for money, he was also harassing others online, he contacted me on myspace in 2009 using the profile Tender, then Henry Organ on Facebook in 2011, then Harry M on Tagged and Hi-5. This man was sending me his Resume and Photographs I knew they were fake and they were used in romance scams apparently as I found it online. This man was like sucking up to me and trying to befriend me he was very threatening and I ended up going to the police, he use to contact me everyday for many months but when I say I went to the police he deleted his profiles and accounts. He threatened to send spies to come and spy on me and also said they’re planning events to hurt me by my home it was quite scary and this man was annoying and I showed the police the conversations we had on Facebook and showed them my emails and threats I got. I think its someone I know someone who knows me using fake names I also believe he uses other fake names and profiles trying to frighten me. I am so sick and tired of it I hope the police track these people down they should be caught for what they do to people its not right and I just ignore them now and delete their messages as they aren’t worth it they are just being silly and childish. This bullying online and stalking has been going on for many years now since July 2009 – current.

  10. Haik moumjian is a scammer been chatting with him on phone Facebook said he’s from America but working on airport this was last year but soon as time come to come over to England a machine goes missing needs lots of money get it replaced last week after 10 months and was coming over to marry me he gets nasty towards me cos didn’t send lots of money over said I’m a British shit and no man will ever want me besides other horrible things guess there was about 5 6 of them altogether he talks over languages or so he has Haik momjean or so not sure who he is don’t think the photos are of him

  11. LaraC says:

    Please go to Scam Warner website or Romance Scam website and post phone numbers, email address, and “his” name on it. That is the best revenge you can do. Potential victims will find your information online and will be saved. You can still save them! Please. – or you can simply post them here too. Important thing is that to let the world know the scammer information as much.

  12. Mike H says:

    Have fun with these scuzzbuckets! I will play right along with their farfetched scheme right up until they start in with the pleas for cash then I drop the hammer on them. You waste the scammer’s time and might prevent another victim from being taken advantage of.The fun part is humiliating them and let them know you knew the truth all along. These cockroaches have no conscious and will bleed you for every dime they can steal.NEVER give somebody you do not know any money for any reason. Making them look like a fool is exactly what they deserve and you get the satisfaction of doing a good deed.If it seems to be too good to be true,it probably is. Give ’em Hell!

    • RomanceScams says:

      Mike, you can of course, do as you wish, but please understand that this is considered to be scambaiting. As such, it is strongly warned against by the FBI because of the potential danger to those who do this. We are talking about men who are experts in using many aspects of technology to fool their victims. They will also, without hesitation, destroy your equipment by using malware, keystroke mirroring, capturing your device to use as a hub for their own activities and more. This really does happen, as many members of Romance Scams will tell you. You are dealing with highly organized and trained criminals with connections to terrorist groups.

      As far as saving someone else from getting scammed, it really doesn’t. The scammers work in groups of 5-10 men who are playing many victims at a time. When one scam doesn’t work they pick up a new one, working 24/7 at their “jobs”.

      Please be safe.

    • RomanceScams says:

      Mike, I meant to include this link from http://www.romancescams.org (safe link) which talks about dealing with the dangers involved in scamming: http://www.romancescams.org/DealingwiththeDangers.html (safe link). Please read it so that you are fully informed before you decide to continue playing along with scammers.

  13. Maureen S. says:

    I get these type friend requests on Facebook all the time. Each one a man from Belgium who is in the states working in the oilfield… Whose wife died in a car wreck, and they usually have a child. The grammar is so off and the script rarely changes. They never last past me telling them I am going to have to run a background check on them…

    • LaraC says:

      Not novice lone-scammers but experienced scammers working for large criminal organizations use well written script in English either written or edited by their English native accomplices. An English woman was arrested by assisting these scammers. Her part involves proof reading of the script the scammers use to fish the victims.

      You do realize the scammers English level is far from each other on their Whatsapp messages and their lengthy emails explaining the difficulties (whatever the situation is!) and demanding money because the scammers can’t improvise good English on Whatsapp!

      My scammer(s) had relatively good command of English on Whatsapp. Probably rehearsed many times, that’s why. But you do realize they are completely “void of personalities”. You are looking at nice faces on the fake-photos they send you, and that “nice humane” feeling you don’t get from their messages because they can’t improvise heart / soul normal people have.

      But it takes a scam to learn that. If you feel there is something “wrong”, then follow your instinct, trust your insight. If you think there is something wrong, then there is always something wrong in it. 🙂

  14. Please watch for a scammer called Ryan Scott.will use the name scott ,Ryan Morgan scott.
    Is a protrolum engineer. from Canada Alberta..he is on a dating site eHarmany he will guide you off that site and get you on facebook messinger
    He specks good english with a nigerian accent.is very educated in philology and knows how to get you interested in him and his life.
    And wants to knoow everything about your life.it will take about 6 months to have you convinced he is the one for you.
    Then the hard luck stores start friend needs help.use you for money any way he wants if you help them once there will be an other story for more until you have no more
    Then they will ask you to get friends to loan you money.
    Ask you to sell your house..sell your .car..
    They do not care as long as they get money
    Remember they do not love you only your money
    If you are involved with a romance scammer
    You have to tell your self every day that they are not real
    Because their pictures are not real
    There words are not real
    And no real man would ask any woman they love for money,
    They all live in nigeria logo’s because there is no law for scammers there
    But iI hear that the new president is trying to clean this crime up
    Ladys be safe and watch for this man or men like him they are millionaires
    and we must stop this now by not sending them money

    • RomanceScams says:

      Sharon, just a note to say that men have to be careful on dating sites, social media and other sites because they get scammed just like women do. And what is really difficult for the straight men is accepting the fact that they have been talking to a man all along, not a woman at all. It is important for us all to learn the signs of a scammer:

      When Contact is First Made

      They immediately want to get off the web site and onto Yahoo IM or other texting site.
      Their profile seems to disappear off the web site immediately after conversation begins.
      They claim it was destiny or fate and you are meant to be together.
      They immediately ask for your picture and they send you a picture of themselves.
      They immediately want your address so as to send you flowers, candy, and teddy bears, often purchased with stolen credit cards.
      They claim to love you either immediately or within 24-48 hours, perhaps longer.
      They immediately start using pet names with you: hon/hun baby/babe sweety/sweetie.
      They claim God brought you to him/her.
      They typically claim to be from the US (or your local region) but they are overseas, or going overseas mainly to Nigeria, sometimes the UK for business or family matters.

  15. Lucy Reis says:

    So scammers also come from istanbul turkey right .the one I talk to also has a son who is sick .witch sent me pictures. Of himself .he is in detention for possible money laundry .he needs this an that to survive .also medicine for his son ..ive tried to break it off many times …omg just to hear please I can’t live without u …how do I do this without feeling bad ?

    • RomanceScams says:

      Lucy, you end things without feeling bad by realizing and accepting that you are not being scammed by a man with a son who is sick. There is no son, there is no one in detention, there is no one who can’t live without you. All that exists is a group of scammers working together on you and several other victims with a goal of getting as much money from all of you as they can. The only thing that they have planned for your future is to keep you believing in them and their supposed troubles somthat you will send them money.

      This may sound harsh and unfeeling to you, but it is the truth. All of the members of the yahoo email group, Romance Scams, understand what you are going through, what you are feeling, how confusing it can be. You need to immediately stop all contact by blocking all points of communication between you and the scammers. It’s really important to do this even if you don’t have it all figured out yet. This is definitely a scam. Please consider joining us at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams. You will learn a lot and get good support.

      • B.McCluskey says:

        I don’t know what to do. I met a man on a website. I mentioned getting off the site to talk. He is Swedish going to Dubai on an oil contract. Liv and behold, we were to meet by Christmas 2025. $1400 later, he is still there needing 35k. ,Of course I m done sending money. I started to check his spelling. For an MD in college it surprises me. He talks with an accent. He also told me his photos were stolen. I found them under s different name on other websites. I have never stopped checking him out. He tells me all he wants is my love. I have nothing else. Is this familiar to anyone? This is going on a year. I need to know.

      • RomanceScams says:

        B.McCluskey, yes, this is a very familiar story. It is definitely a scam. The very best thing you can do is to block all points of communication between you and the scammer(s). Do not say another word, do not indicate that you suspect that you have been told lie after lie. This is for the protection of your computer, phone, notebook – any electronic means you have been. If they become angry they have the technological skills to destroy these things with viruses and malware, or to steal all the information on you contacts list, or even capture you keystrokes as you type, perhaps giving them access to passwords and other confidential information.

        Yes, this is painful to accept, difficult to follow through with blocking contact, it is so important to do this. Please consider joining our yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams (safe link). You will find information, support and understanding because we all have been scammed; we are all on a healing journey from the pain of the scam.

    • Dee says:

      I have a similar story, he is in trouble in Turkey for overstaying visa, went there for work. Has son living with elderly aunt in Michigan, helps support them. Needs money for them and for his fine. His name is Carl Frederick (found him on another site under Randy Heinen). Very difficult to break it off. Uses Viber for messaging.

      • RomanceScams says:

        Dee, it certainly matches the familiar script of lies that scammers use. The names are made up, the photos are stolen, they live in one country which they leave to do temporary work in another country, they are divorced or widowed, frequently have a child. And then, when they know they have your interest, they have financial problems which can only be solved by you! It is indded very hard to break it off because you have been brainwashed into believing in this illusion of love, this non-existent person. That person lives in our heads and our hearts. But we have to cut it off and do it immediately once you know you are dealing with scammers. Block all contact points: email, chat, phone. Uninstall the viper app. it may contain a virus. Scan your equipment for malware of viruses.

        Think of it this way. If someone knocked you down on the street and stole your wallet, would you want to be friends with them? Even if you recognize them in some way? They have heart you, stolen from you and would certainly do it again the next time you step out your door. No, you would call the police, report the crime, and never walk down that street again. Another way to break free is to go to youtube and watch videos of the scammers at work. They are in groups, not working as individuals, all participating in each scam and conducting many scams at one time. They keep notes and files on each victim. The person you talked to on the phone isn’t the one you went you love poems or the one you sent you links to music.

        Are you in Australia? They do a better job of working on these crimes than most places, even though it is very close to impossible to track these scammers because you have no true information. But they do try and will give you advice. You can also join our Yahoo support group at https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/romancescams/info (safe link). You will find information, support and a group of people who will not judge you or what happened to you because we have all been scammed or have family members involved in a scam.

  16. Lucy Reis says:

    Can I ask do scammers use there children cause , he said his child goes to school ,and he has been paying his way.now this is what I don’t understand, his son was texting me ,and we got very close, he called me mom . Now I would get texts from him and the dad .this went on for about 8 mo,then i looked up his picture an found out the pictures where from another child handsome young man ,who was famous in his own right..of course all the pictures where of that of what his son was sending me I confronted the boy ,and after that not a word ,,now his dad said he went into shock an went to hospital..been sick every sense. Now I’m up against. His dad in detention. And son sick .help I don’t know what to believe!!!!

    • RomanceScams says:

      Lucy, it’s hard to realize and accept after you have formed a close bond with someone, but this is a scam. All of the elements of a scam are there. Single father, child away at school, child becomes ill, father is detained. Did he ask for money to help him pay for all of these problems? If not, that will happen soon. He will play on your love for this boy and for him. You are being set up to feel guilty and obligated to help. If you don’t send money, the pressure on you will increase. Anger and accusations will be dierected at you, or maybe tears.

      You need to stop all contact, block all means of contact. Just disappear from any connection you have with the scammers without another word! Yes, there are several men involved in this scam. The person you were in contact with does not exist, neither does the son. No one is in the hospital or in detention. Everything is made up, created just to get your money. You are talking to a group of men gathered in an Internet cafe, most likely in Nigeria. They are busy all day, every day, scamming multiple victims at a time.

      This is upsetting and difficult to accept. Please join the Romance Scam Yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams. You will find understanding, support and information because everyone there has been scammed and knows how you feel.

  17. Lucy Reis says:

    This man I talk to is in istanbul turkey any reports from that country an yes I sent 200 for his sons meds .i asked about hospital be sent me the name unfortunately they don’t give out info to non relative’s..this guy is good .how do they do that?

    • RomanceScams says:

      Lucy, often scammers set up false phone numbers to give to their victims so that they may contact a hospital or hotel, or prison. There is always a scammer waiting to answer that call and pretend to be the doctor or administrator or law enforcement official. If you found the information on the Hospital yourself, it is most likely true that they give information only to families and are used to getting these calls from scam victims, so they don’t even confirm that there is a patient by that name.

      Romance scammers in Nigeria and Ghana and other countries work in groups with an experienced “boss”. They have technology which allows them to seem to be calling or emailing from any country they choose. I believed I was talking to a person in Chicago who was doing work building a warehouse for Chevron. He and his team were never anywhere outside of Nigeria.

  18. Lucy Reis says:

    The reason I ask the 200 I sent went to istanbul turkey I’m confused as I understand most in Nigeria so how does this work help me understand . I don’t talk to him any more I’m ok with that . Just wow these guys are so convincing..
    My God I really believed him ..

    .

    • RomanceScams says:

      Lucy, the scammers use people in various ways, There are the victims who are convinced to send money. That money is often sent to a third party who is also being scammed. They deposit the funds, then send them to someone else minus the small amount they get to keep for helping their “true love”. The people re-sending the money are unknowingly acting as “money mules” and could be subject to arrest themselves.

      And yes, the scammers can be very good at what they do and we believe them and fall under their influence. One reason we tell victims to immediately block all contact without another word is because everything we tell them about why we believe or know they are scammers educated them and helps them to become more effective in the next scam.

  19. I believe that the relationship I’m in that he could be a scamer he allways use honey when msg me .he says his name is captain william henry of the seabourn criuse ship which I think is incorrect information I would like to know who this person is and what he does for a living. and to see a real photo of him .please help me to find out who william is he lost his wife in car accident and has a son name kelly

    • RomanceScams says:

      Narelle, there is no such person as Captain William Henry with a son named Kelly. This has several of the warning signs of a scam: almost never using your first name, wife died tragically leaving a child to be cared for, the use of what could be a first name as a last name and a career that supposedly has him traveling away from his home. In fact, behind this made up person is not just one scammer, but a group of scammers working together to get your money and the money of the dozen or so other victims they are scamming at the same time with their words of love and stories of problems only you can help with. Please protect yourself by immediately, without any explanation, blocking all means of contact between you and the scammers. If you would like to have email headers checked for approximate sending location, to have photos you would like to have reverse searched, please consider joining the Romance Scams Yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams – we have volunteer counselors who are skilled at doing these things. We also have information on how to report a scam and support for the emotional after effects of being scammed.

      Once scammer realize you suspect them, they will not hesitate to threaten you and to infect your electronic devices with malware and viruses that can destroy them. These hidden programs also allow them to steal your contacts information and see everything you type, including personal and financial information.

  20. Marites says:

    I’m one of the victim, just broke up with my husband,abandoned my 3 kids and jobless.I went to the NBI instead of helping me because I know they can catch these people I was kectured as if I’m his daughter.So I did not return to that dept.what I want to happen is that these scammers wont continue their evil acts.The mobile phone is still ringing and they can easily trace it.But I was frustrated.These are syndicates.They should be stopped.

    • RomanceScams says:

      It’s understandable that you are very angry and upset over what has happened to your life as a result of this scam. And we all wish these criminals could be caught and kept from ever doing this again. But there are over 8 million scammers out there. With the majority of them in Nigeria and Ghana where the authorities are willing to look the other way for a share of the money, it is unlikely to happen. At times, for show, they arrest a lot of them, but they only spend a few days in jail and then are released to keep scamming. As far as tracing the phone number, these scammers use VolP connections, making it almost impossible to trace them. They can make the phone numbers appear to be from any location they want rather than the true location. With countries devoting so much money tracking international hackers of sensitive, private business and national information, there is not enough manpower to devote to Romance scammers. And many countries do not have extradition treaties with the criminals’ home country that allow them to bring them to the victim’s country for justice to be done.

      You should block all contact points that were used between you and the scammers. Depending on where you live there may be financial assistance available, in the U.S. It would be fraudaid.com

      You can join RomanceScams’ Yahoo email group for more information and support.
      http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams (Safe link)

  21. please find out details on oybio kingsley and William Henry 748@Gmail

    • RomanceScams says:

      Narelle, I understand that you have received a response from a peer counselor from the chat line. We get many requests to find information on specific names. Unfortunately it is almost impossible to find anything meaningful because, in a scam, none of the information is true. I have read your story on the chat line and agree that this is definitely a scam. Please follow the advice you received there and stop all contact immediately. Accusing them of being scammers can create a dangerous situation: they may infect your computer or other device with malware that can make it unrepairable. If you would like more information and support you may continue working with Michele and you can also join our Yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams where all of the counselors and members have either been scammed or are trying to help close friends and family members who are involved in a scam.

  22. well if I had all ready asked give me some information

    • Lara says:

      Hi. All you can do is Google search the name, email address, phone number, Skype ID etc “he” gave you to see whether you will find if anybody else reported the scam under the same information (profile). If you didn’t please post every information you have on website so that if your scammers are using the same information “he” gave you to scam other people then at least you can save them if they ever Google the information.

      I am sorry to tell you this but this is all what you can do. Scammers will never get caught. You can’t eradicate crimes from this planet. Unfortunately crimes will continually exist till the end of human society. All what we can do is to keep warning people about it and since you have “his” information you maybe able to save potential victims.

      Hope this helps.

  23. Evelyn S. says:

    Hi everybody, I’d like to share my story as well and in detail as follows.
    My name is Evelyn S. and I was happily married, but bored. You know I finally got to retire but nothing was like I had imagined and I had nothing to do all day long even volounteering as neightbourhood patrol wasn’t enough.
    Well, to make a long story short, one day I receive a contact request on FB (facebook) and I accept it because it was a handsome guy about my age and just wanted to chat… from there we start chatting both on Skype and on Whatsapp. We start getting more and more friendly, he calls me with cute nicknames and always has sweet words and quotes for me, always so romantic, patient and would even say caring.
    I start thinking he’s kind of my perfect guy: American, Doctor (surgeon) and even a patriot because enroled in the US military force and working at UNHCR! Unfortunately he is in Aleppo under bombing hence we have no chance to videochat, but he falls in love with me, a love deep as such if we were married and sends me plenty of pictures as well as his son’s details. Poor thing I initially think, he had to leave his orphan of mother son (who is 16) alone in Nigeria and is very worried about him, so asks me to get in touch with him and so I do. Kelvin’s even sweeter than the father and starts calling me mom. I have a new family and this fills my heart of joy and love: they are just perfect, always nice to me, calm, lovely…
    Shortly they start telling me heartbreaking stories and asking for money: 800$ at first, 400 later and just anything I could help with in the end… and so I fall into their trap! They start sending me documents to file for divorce, ask for a VISA to go see them, and my id and passport details.
    At this point I couldn’t hide my involvement anymore and my real family starts noticing.
    My sons and daughter at first think I am flirting and this is just a fling, but put in the corner I admit I want to spend my life with them. This breakes their heart but they start investigating, they don’t talk to me anymore, I think they hate me and I live in a nightmare because they are always after me and checking me out spying me and limiting my freewill, we are always arguing they shout at me all the time I feel in cage. I thought my real family was lying to me when they told me I was in a scam plot, but now I know they were right… they were right all the time James Ray was a scammer, he only wanted money for the kid to study and eat, and my personal details… whatever his real name is he only wanted to duplicate my personal details.
    Also he asked to meet him in America and I went but I was robbed and after that he published private pictures of myself and started blackmailing me.
    Now I feel lonely more than ever because the dream was broken and my real family destroyed, I just wish I could go back in time and listen to them to savage the good things we still had.
    I have decided to share my personal experience because I want you to avoid doing the same mistake I have already done and cannot erase from my life.
    Please never trust unknown requests, do not accept them!
    Avoid James and/or Kelvin Ray!!!

    • RomanceScams says:

      Evelyn, my heart aches for you. It is one thing to be robbed of money, but another to have your family fall apart as the result of a scam. You are very strong to be willing to share your story with the blog readers.

      There are a few things I can tell you about these Romance Scams.The vast majority of them, especially those coming from Nigeria and Ghana are carried out, not by one man, not two men, but a group of 4 – 7 men, a scammer cell or pod. They share parts of each scam and they are scamming many individuals at a time. They keep files and post it notes on each victim so they can keep current with what is happening with each contact. They use pet names like Babe, Baby, Sweetie, Hun, Honey, and so on in order to avoid using the wrong name and having to come up with an excuse for the mistake. It is very common for the pretend person to have lost his spouse tragically – or n childbirth, in an accident, to cancer, etc. And just as frequent to have the sole care of a child, perhaps too. A younger man or older child will take on the role of the child if direct contact is made. They also make use of voice changing software to play the part of a child or woman. They show concern and compassion if their victim has a problem or is ill. They declare their love quite soon after connecting, then build a fantasy world for the victim to believe in, a future together that seems perfect. They succeed in doing this through the use of personal profiling, a light form of hypnosis and brainwashing. Absolutely nothing they say is true. The photos are stolen, the names made up (frequently with a last name that could be a first name for English speakers), the phone numbers spoofed, the email origins masked etc. And they care nothing at all for their victims even though they are experts at making us feel a strong emotional connection. When we seem to have doubts they make us feel guilty. If we try to back out, they threaten blackmail or murder.

      You might be interested in this information about military romance scams:

      MIL.SCAMS 101
      Visit http://www.cid.army.mil/romance_scam.htmlthe Official CID Website for more Military Scam information and counterfeit documents.
      Formatted: ©copr.libelular for personal file.
      Are You Dating an Army Soldier or a Fake?

      There is one surefire way to know if your soldier is fake:
      If a soldier you’re “dating” online asks you for money for ANY reason, it’s a scam. Period. End of story.
      **********

      The Military Impostor Scam Checklist
      So let me sum this up:
      If he’s asking for money for a phone line, it’s a scam.
      If he’s asking for money for travel home, it’s a scam.
      If he needs you to help him move money from one location to another, it’s a scam.
      If he asks for your bank account information, it’s a scam.
      If he wants you to wire money for ANY reason via Western Union (or similar service), it’s a scam.
      If he asks you to email his command officer so he can go home, it’s a scam.
      If he tells you to open a bank account or credit card for him, it’s a scam
      And this one will get you into legal (Federal)trouble!

      I know this information comes to late for you. We have more information on how to report a military scam if you haven’t already done that. Reports can be stressful to do, but once done, most victims report a sense of empowerment, a first step in reclaiming their lives.

      We have so much more helpful information and a lot of emotional support in our Yahoo email group at
      http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams (Safe link) Even if you choose not to share or ask questions you will learn a lot from reading the stories that others share and the responses that they receive. If nothing else, you will not feel so alone and isolated. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • LaraC says:

      May I? First of all I am sorry you were involved it is nothing of your fault. They are professional criminal syndicate a normal good citizen cannot avoid to fall into their traps sometimes.

      Second, James is not a guy it is a group of people of global criminal syndicate. It wasn’t he you were chatting with you were communicating with number of people behind the name of James and Kelvin.

      Third, I don’t wanna sound condescending and I am only a 3rd party person who knows nothing about you but I think the real issue for you is / was in your life already, I don’t know how you call it maybe mid-age or bit older than mid-age crisis in your marriage.

      Falling into the trap of the criminal syndicate wasn’t of your fault but maybe it is that from your family / your husband point of view they see it as your wrong doings that you tried to flirt with other guy(s). So if anyone to make amends it could be that it is by your effort I think.

      Falling is part of our life but coming back up is living.
      HOPE you get back even a better relationship with your family afterwards even it might take time.

      🙂

  24. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    I have been scammed by two scammers and lost 37.000 euros i never knew what scammer is i was in a scamromance419 i am from greece
    I have never seen in life someone writing so educated and perfect so as to suspect

    Pavlina

    • RomanceScams says:

      Paulina, I noticed that you have joined our support group. I know you will find the information and support you need there. The scam cell that was in contact with me, had someone who was also who seemed educated, who wrote and spoke very clearly. He pretended to be such a kind, caring and humorous person that I really fell for him and gave my heart away as well as a lot of money. The day I learned the truth, someone whose writing was very bad whose accent was so strong when he called me, I knew something was wrong. These criminals have varying ability to write and speak well. You should know that more than one person was nvolved in your scam as they usually are. The work was in groups, each helping with each of the scams they are working at one time. The links to music and the love poems were, I am sure, sent to me by a different scammer in the group. The love poems are copied from sites on the Internet. The small details may differ, but the basic script they use is the same. I didn’t know there were scams like this either. At various times I had received communications from different men who seemed crazy to me, or too young, or living too far away for me to be interested in them. I had no idea what they were really trying to do.

      It is so difficult to let go of the dream they created for us, to accept that everything was a lie. It takes time to recover from a scam that involves your heart. We have to go minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. But we can heal from this horrible crime. With the help of the members and the peer counselors I learned so much about these scams. I know you can be helped, your questions answered, your emotions understood.

    • LaraC says:

      You mean from two “different” profile of the scammers?

      I was approached by different profile (different name, phone number, email address etc) shortly after I was scammed for the 1st time. I studied a lot about the romance scammers online after I was scammed so when I was approached by the 2nd one I knew it was a scammer right away. Blocked them, posted their information online to warn others.

      They often approach the same victim with different profile with different approach. Sometimes as soon as they found that you know they are the scammers they threat you with the photos and your information you gave them on the first scam. They do this because they think they know your weak point and can use it against to you.

      As far as I have been reading up about the romance scams it is very common that they approach the same victims multiple times. I guess because it is effective for them. They are persistent and would do anything to suck every single penny from you. They have nothing to lose, they don’t have a life but they have time and they are living in the lawless world where no one can catch them.

      And WE don’t know that kind of world before we actually encounter with the scams. I knew about the face-to-face scams where you get scammed by ‘real’ people and they could go to jail but I not this. Prior to my scam took place, I thought the criminals (in general) would at least risk (their life, jail time etc) to commit crimes but not this. They risk nothing.

      Only way to stop this crime is to educate people. Post about them online. They abuse internet, then we use internet to interrupt them.

  25. LaraC says:

    You mean from two “different” profile of the scammers?

    I was approached by different profile (different name, phone number, email address etc) shortly after I was scammed for the 1st time. I studied a lot about the romance scammers online after I was scammed so when I was approached by the 2nd one I knew it was a scammer right away. Blocked them, posted their information online to warn others.

    They often approach the same victim with different profile with different approach. Sometimes as soon as they found that you know they are the scammers they threat you with the photos and your information you gave them on the first scam. They do this because they think they know your weak point and can use it against to you.

    As far as I have been reading up about the romance scams it is very common that they approach the same victims multiple times. I guess because it is effective for them. They are persistent and would do anything to suck every single penny from you. They have nothing to lose, they don’t have a life but they have time and they are living in the lawless world where no one can catch them.

    And WE don’t know that kind of world before we actually encounter with the scams. I knew about the face-to-face scams where you get scammed by ‘real’ people and they could go to jail but I not this. Prior to my scam took place, I thought the criminals (in general) would at least risk (their life, jail time etc) to commit crimes but not this. They risk nothing.

    Only way to stop this crime is to educate people. Post about them online. They abuse internet, then we use internet to interrupt them.

  26. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Thank you for your reply
    I never thought something like that existed
    What saved me somehow was that two weeks before i learn the horryfying and ugly truth is that i have decided that i reject the man i loved because i didnt like his character i have understood that he was selfish only caring about his needs and not mine and always asking from me things to do for him
    I believe angel Michael saved me on whose wings the scammer was swearing that he never lied to me he also swear to his life and to the blood of Jesus christ!!!
    Arent they afraid of anything those scammers?
    I have lost a lot of money and now being at a very bad economical situation
    As it comes to heart matter i told you i already had rejected him and the pain was not so bad

    Pavlina

    • Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

      I mean by two scammers one the American soldier and second the gyu in ghana with whom i was talking on the phone and third by the American diplomat whose id i had i also spoke with him sometimes on the phone

      Pavlina

    • LaraC says:

      That was a huge money you lost by any standard and I am very sorry that this happened to you. I lost about half what you did and luckily I never fell for “him” so it hurt my wallet and I was so upset for what they did to me but my heart was intact. I think I have to think my self lucky.

      What you just said why you don’t have feelings for “him” anymore, reminded me why in the first place I never fell for “him”. As you said they are never a likeable characters. They can’t be. They are a bunch of sociopath who have no empathy to anyone what so ever. So no matter how they try to portrait a seemingly normal guy/woman (to scam straight guys) their characters are always and inevidably fake, which now I come to think of it it is so apparent that why we’re scammers. But of course I had no idea back them because I wouldn’t have known this crime existed!

      Selfish, rude, arrogant, narssistic, void of empathy, childish (many are young in their 20s playing guys of 40, 50) bonkers. Totally unlivable.

      So the question is then why did I give “him” money? That is a million dollar question! I have to say it was like I was on the spell. I liked his looks. My fault my weakness. I was approached at the right timing (or bad timing depends on how you look at it) on the right way. As I have seen one woman s tv interview she was the same she never was in love with “him” but she gave him 6 digits. – it s on YouTube by Australian talk show I forgot what it s called but it is a good one. Google by Romance Scam dpcumentary, or something.

      So yes red flag all the way. I heard alarms all the way but I ignored those because never in my life have I ever imagined this could exist! All the time I was thinking if I would meet him (as I was sending him money to meet!) I would confront him! Ha!!

      So yes it was a great shock when I found out that “he” never existed, that we will never meet, and that my money was gone “puff” and I lost it forever to the bunch of criminals.

      It took time to come back from the shock but again my heart was never hurt so I consider my self lucky and I am glad to hear that your pain is not so bad anymore.

      • LaraC says:

        Oops. I realized the autocorrect on some of my spelling. And since I can’t edit pls guess what I meant to type for some of the words which don’t fit to the sentence!

  27. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    At the beginning i fell for him i was crazy in love with him
    But as months passed i realised i didnt like the way he reacted although i liked his photo very very much
    I also believed that there was a box of money i was sure about it thats why i gave in second place all that money
    Now i cannot forgive myself for giving all that money away i feel ashamed i feel very bad i would have killed myself if i was not somehow protected from Michael the archangel
    All i want is those people to be punished i want them in jail
    I will beg for that till the end of my life

    Pavlina

    P

  28. LaraC says:

    Hi Pavlina

    I hear you very much. After a year and a half since, I dont think about it at all except for when I get email notifications on posts and web pages I subscribe about the scammers like this one. But sometimes when something reminded me about the scam I go deep in planning how best I can revenge.

    I think the best revenge is, and I know this sounds cliche but cliche is true!, that you become happy. Because that’s one of many but most blissful thing they can’t. They can not be happy but you can.

    But that is a long process. As a short, you can post all about the information of your scammers online to warn others who are in contact with them right now. Scammers change names and emails but if you got their local phone number they likely keep using it and I had contacted by several ladies who saw my posts online by searching “his” phone number I posted, ended up not becoming a victim!

    Many also become “scam catcher” or do “scam bait”. You need some cautions of doing this as you need to protect your privacy but you can search for how to do this online. They, all of them are victims, lurk into dating websites, catch scammers, post their profiles online to warn others. Or keep chatting with them, waste their time (to reduce their time to spend on catching other victims) pretend to send money by using fake WesternUnion payment slips etc to dupe scammers. But again, I would not recommend this unless you know exactly how to protect your self from the scammers. (They will plant malware on your device to steel your information etc)

    Or like me, you may try registering to do volunteer to help others. This is not as direct involvement as scammer catch but at the end of the day if you started doing something for good causes out of this horrible and bitter assault on you, you are not letting the assault victimizing you but letting the experience shaping your life. Something the scammer can NEVER do even they are reborn. They are damned, cursed, they are punished already for who they are.

    Imagine a life with no friends, no true love or friendship because you don’t have empathy. Life with no guilt or surrendered to guilt that you’re letting it eating you for you to rot. They don’t look at the sun in the same way you do, they don’t feel warmth from sun light in the way you do. They don’t appreciate ocean, they don’t wake up in the morning smelling fresh and good in the air in the same way you can. They are already in jail, called life.

    But you are not.
    Your life should not be defined by them or by the crimes they committed.

    This thought helped me overcoming from the assault a year and a half ago. Made me relieve seeing a clear borderline in between the world they live in and the world WE live in. We have good we have light we have love they don’t. And once you stepped into their line there is no return. Made me feel I am lucky to be on this side and I felt sad for them.

    I saw a video on Youtube about a former scammer a Nigerian young guy who disclosed his crime to his victim because he fell in love with her in the end. He confessed everything, returned all the money he stole from her and cut off all the contact with her and he said only after then, he felt like he is living again. I dont know if he scammed others and if he did then, he will spend rest of his life paying the debt somehow.

    I somehow have to believe so.

    • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

      Hi Larac

      Thank you for your support If this scammer who repented and return the money will pay for his debts What will happen then with my scammer who was swearing false to Angel Michael who is so corrupted to swear false to his life to Jesus blood? Larac i want to see him suffering i want to KNOW that he is suffering with untolerable suffers

      Pavlina

      Στις Τρίτη, 24 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

      > LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina I hear you very much. After a year and a half > since, I dont think about it at all except for when I get email > notifications on posts and web pages I subscribe about the scammers like > this one. But sometimes when something reminded me about t” >

      • RomanceScams says:

        Pavlina, we all have to accept the idea that we will never get our money back. If you , or anyone else here, gets a check or money order or any other form of money transfer from a scammer, saying it is to pay you back,it isjust another scam that will take away more of your money. These will be counterfeit checks. If you deposit that check or money order and then use some or all of the money to pay your bills, you will hear from your bank. It often takes a while before these money transfers to be discovered as counterfeit. Often the victim has spent some or all of the money and will owe that amount to the bank. So, never, ever believe a scammer who says he is paying you back. He may suddenly need some of that money back and if you send it, once again you will owe that money back to the bank.

        As far as wishing for the scammers to suffer, that is a normal part of the anger we feel. Try to work through your anger and then let it go. Punch a pillow, write down what you are feeling then burn the paper you wrote on. Feel that rage, then release.

        Two things to remind yourself of:

        By holding on to the anger, you are letting the scammer live in your thoughts, in your mind. You don’t need him to take anything more from you, not your time or your healing thoughts. So kick him out! Do not let him live rent free in your head.

        Second – if you are Christian, you know the verse: vengeance is mine, saith the Lord. And we are told to forgive 70 times 7. So if you are religious, give all of your scammer experience to God. He is the only one who knows the real person or people who did this to you and countless others. Let him handle it.

      • LaraC says:

        Hi Pavlina

        I understand your anger very well… we’ve all been there though with various degrees and I don’t mean to compare your anger to mine as mine went away quicker than yours. If this happened to you recently or even a long time ago and you are suffering from it, I am very sorry and all I can do is to hope you will find your way to let it go as RomanceScamms blogger commented you above. I 100% agree.

        When this happened to you recently, I think the emotions are too raw to let it go. Not just yet. I think you can be upset for all you need for now. Let it rage, let it get done with it. But it should not stay with you long to destroy you.

        You may be saved in various ways, as you sound you are religious (I am not) you might find it in your religion. You may read books of women who became victims of not limited to the romance scams (as I don’t know any books out there which deal with this issue?) but of various humiliations or sufferings and how they are coping with it.

        As for me I can recommend Woman Who Run with Wolves. I read it long time ago and still when I need I read back. This does not deal with romance scams, but deals with many life aspects of women using Jungian psychology and old tales around the world to suggest the directions when needed.

        I quoted the example of the scammer who returned the money back to his victim but that’s only one example out of millions who do not return money nor repent for their crimes. They don’t repent, they don’t return. And when they do, as RomanceScams blogger commented do never receive it. Or it could be that they try to use you as a mule for money laundering by using your bank account. Then it is you who will go to jail not them. (You can read up about many victims who were jailed by being used as mules by the scammers)

        To see the sufferings of assaults with our own eyes…
        I DO hope the world works that way…
        That’s why we used to hang criminals on the public areas. Cut their hands, stone them to death. It is in humans to want to see that. Very natural.

        The question is, if we can’t then what we do?
        That is a very difficult question which we will keep searching for the answers…

      • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

        The dragon is the scammer and fighting him is Archangel Michael Who shall win?

        Pavlina

        Στις Τετάρτη, 25 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

        > LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina I understand your anger very well… we’ve > all been there though with various degrees and I don’t mean to compare your > anger to mine as mine went away quicker than yours. If this happened to you > recently or even a long time ago and you are s” >

      • LaraC says:

        First of all I am not religious so my view is not based on any dogma or teachings from established religions.

        I think the answer depends on how you look at the whole things over the time. I think the dragon thrives (btw in where I live dragon is the good :)) without getting caught do all the damages and he is unstoppable. And I don’t see the picture of angel fighting with the dragon. Angel will not stand in front of the dragon to protect you he won’t beat the shit out of the dragon. That’s not how your angel “fights”. I think he will instead give you the strengths to cope with the damages. He empowers you to overcome the damage you received. He empowers you to become strong. And your strength will empower the people around you, the world, the society for the good and that’s how the angel fights not with the dragon but with evil in the world.

        Do you believe a pen is mightier than a sword? If you do then you get the concept. Pen does not have a capability of cutting the sword in half that’s not how it fights.

        If you keep hoping that one day your angel will get up on the fighting ring and face the dragon, take out the weapon and shutter the dragon in pieces I don’t think that day will arrive.

        Crime existed long before the civilization.
        Scam existed since the advent of intelligence.
        It is one of the oldest crime in human history. (Not the romance scam, or through the means internet)
        You cannot eradicate the crimes = dragons from this world as long as human remains on earth.

        I don’t know your scammers but my scammers are hugely operated global criminal syndicate connected with Hong Kong, China, Nigeria and Indonesia – as far as I and the police tracked down. One in the million chance even if the ground operators (the actual scammers I was in chat with) get caught there are layers and layers exist in the syndicate their boss will never get caught or if he will we will see that on the Breaking News on CNN.

        So what exactly is that you want to fight with?
        Pawns in the syndicate you were actually in the contact with?
        Or their boss in upper layer who operate the gang?
        Or a possible terrorist group operating in middle east or somewhere who received the money they stole from you?

        It is endless to chase what “dragon” actually be.
        And what is your definition of “winning”?

        That’s what I mean by my first sentence, it depends on how you look at the WHOLE thing now, this is a WHOLE picture of the scam which you were involved in. Very deep.

    • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

      Hi Lara i want to ask you a question please I have receivrd from scammers a lot of fake documentd drafts cards etc HOW DO THESE CRIMINALS CAN CREATE ANY KIND OF DOCUMENT IN THE WORLD?

      Thank you Pavlina Στις Τρίτη, 24 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Pavlina Valavanidou έγραψε:

      > Hi Larac > > Thank you for your support > If this scammer who repented and return the money will pay for his debts > What will happen then with my scammer who was swearing false to Angel > Michael who is so corrupted to swear false to his life to Jesus blood? > Larac i want to see him suffering i want to KNOW that he is suffering with > untolerable suffers > > Pavlina > > Στις Τρίτη, 24 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog comment-reply@wordpress.com > > έγραψε: > >> LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina I hear you very much. After a year and a >> half since, I dont think about it at all except for when I get email >> notifications on posts and web pages I subscribe about the scammers like >> this one. But sometimes when something reminded me about t” >>

      • RomanceScams says:

        Pavlina, we all go through periods of intense anger, visualizing the scammers being harshly punished, suffering as they made us summer. This is normal, but it needs to be felt and the let it go. No one ever gets any money back. The scammers will not be caught and punished. How can they be caught when all of the information they gave us is false, all lies. We need to finally accept that ”tis is the reality of the situation. Let God deal with them. Are you familiar with this quote from the Bible, “Vengence is mine, sanity the Lord” ?

        The main reason we need to get past the anger is that we are only hurting ourselves thinking and thinking of what happened. If we continue to do that, we are making the damage caused by the scammers even worse. It is as if we are still under their control, which makes them happy, knowing we realize the truth and are suffering. We need to become stronger, more impowered every day. Think about today, plan for tomorrow, but don’t live in yesterday.

        If the scammers are still getting through to you, you really have to change your phone number and email. If you cannot do that, then NEVER answer a call when you do not recognize the number. Protect yourself from more upset.

        As far as the scammer falsely swearing to God and angels, that was all a lie too. No scammer ever truly repents and admits who he is and says he is in love with you – it is another string of lies, another type of scam. Please believe what I am telling you. It has happened to many victims: if they believed that story, then they got in serious trouble and it often lasted four years. Or they traveled to Nigeria and were never seen again, or found dead.

        Right now it is time to think about Pavlina, not the scammers. Yes, you may have to deal with financial problems and that reminds you, but use your energy to deal with that problem, not think of the scammers.

        Take care of yourself, you matter very much. They do not matter at all.

      • LaraC says:

        Hi Pavlina

        I am not sure if I understand your question correctly. Anyone can create any fake documents using computers easily. You can create any fake certificates any fake passports fake money fake everything. They are all fake.

        And fake documents at hard to be detectes by normal people because they look so similar to real ones.

        Lara

      • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

        Hi Lara thank you for your reply I dont think if i keep a scammer busy fir sometime this is a revenge for me Where i find consoludation if the scam is writing a book about it I call it the dragon if ghana I dont know if i wulk be able to finish it and when ir if it will like to others It is the first time i have the need to write a book And if it will be nice this will be my revenge Besides they beat ud with their pen maybe i can beat them with my book

        Yours Pavlina

        Στις Παρασκευή, 24 Μαρτίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

        > LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina I am not sure if I understand your question > correctly. Anyone can create any fake documents using computers easily. You > can create any fake certificates any fake passports fake money fake > everything. They are all fake. And fake documents ” >

    • RomanceScams says:

      Hi Lara. The story you saw on YouTube about the man who fell in love with his victim may or may not be true. It could have been made to support other scammers who go into a new stage of the Romance Scam, to make victims believe that there is a possibility of this actually happening. If it is true it is extremely rare; sadly the story line is not rare. It is simply another scam, often wth a goal of getting a green card through the sponsorship of the victim. If this part of the scam works, the victim becomes responsible for all of the scammers expenses for 10 years (in the US and Canada) whether or not they marry. The scammer will become mean and abusive and the victim will be living in hell. It is not a “happily ever after” story. Besides this, in the process of achieving that sponsorship, the scammer will still be having problems that require more money to solve….and it goes on.

      Scambaiting is dangerous not only for the reason you stated, but it can also result in legal difficulties as the victim is accused of money laundering, being a part of the scam, Internet crime, etc. As you stated, these men do not care. They are heartless. They are empowered, not only by taking our money, but by fooling their victims. It makes them feel superior. Also, if they are from west Africa, they believe we deserve to suffer because their ancestors were enslaved in our countries. It is far better to put the energy, time and emotion involved in scambaiting into healing. Obviously, there are those who don’t agree, who take great delight in scamming a scammer. It’s a thrill, and they believe it shows how smart and strong they are. They believe they are getting revenge. I don’t think there is any need to endanger ourselves by focusing on this kind of revenge. I’m glad to see that you are not recommending it, just acknowledging that it exists.

  29. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Thank you Larac
    You help me a lot especially when you said about the power and help my angel gives to me.I believe he does
    I believe as you said Larac that more powerful than a sword is a pen.Besides its with their pens the scammer gained me and totally had power on me
    But there is something more powerful than pen.that is faith.Unfornunatelly my faith is not so strong so as to believe that angel Michael will kill the dragon and what exactly i mean is locate my scammer or scammers and punish them with no pity.But if i strongly believed that this will happen one day then this would certainly happen one day
    My faith is not strong but i will still be hoping till the last day of my life that my angel will beat the dragon

    Pavlina

    • LaraC says:

      Hi Pavlina

      I am glad with your confidence in faith. It is great to have have a faith and I think you should be proud to have that in you, and remember scammers don’t have anything beautiful in their lives! – this fact alone you have beaten them.

      I do hope one day your wish to come true by any forms. But just please remember, be aware in fighting monster that you don’t become the one.

      Also I hope you will have chance to talk about your experience with other victims. I think you will gain more support than anything. 🙂

    • LaraC says:

      Re: Getting your money back

      Although at the moment you don’t and you won’t. I don’t mean to set your hope too high. But here are some good movement to prevent scams and to return money back to the victims by Western Union. Still billions of miles away but a little progress in seemingly no-help-at-all world of romance scam?

      A link that was posted here has been removed. Links are only allowed to be posted by the moderator.

      I don’t believe in Angels like you do but if there were any I believe that they’re morphed in us in our strength. And as you can see the blogger of this website above was also scammed and lost all her/his money. And that turned her/him into the warrior to setup this blog to fight against to the scams. I think there are ways you can fight too. Hope you will find your own means. :)n

    • LaraC says:

      One more note from the website:

      Early realisation is when we have just realised, by whatever mechanism, that we have been scammed. During this time there is much emotion, shock, embarrassment, and shame. This is often suffered alone.

      Victim is when we have accepted we have been scammed, but this fact is still running our lives. We don’t trust others or ourselves.

      Survivor is when we have fully come to terms with what has happened, we have recovered our equilibrium, and have moved on with our lives. Within a safe environment we are OK about talking about what has happened. We may also be willing to go public with our experience.

  30. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Hi Larac

    I wish i could communicate with other victims but it is only you who is responding i thank you very much for that
    Also you said that maybe is possible western union return some money?

    Pavlina

    • LaraC says:

      Hi

      Have you tried posting on support group this blogger offers? – no reply?

      A link has been removed from this post. We do not allow links to be posted except by the moderator.

      About WU (Western Union) it is just an article about how WU has impoved their due deligent procedure in Australia (only in Australia) where scammers are most active and therefore the police commitment to catching the scammers are most advanced in the world and that’s one extremely lucky example out of hundreds of thousands of WU outlet amongst millions of victims who will never see our money back.

      What I wanted to tell you is if you want to fight back you may work on easing awareness about the romance scam locally or even with your local authority. It seems it is only in Australia the authority is “kind of” serious (not enough) on tackling romance scams but I’m sure it took many people’s relentless effort. But you see say ten people amongst a million victims got their justice it is still a million miles to go…

      Better than nothing though.

    • RomanceScams says:

      Pavlina, I believe you have joined our Yahoo email support group. You may ask any questions there, ask for support, share your story and your feelings. Everyone there will understand what you have been through because everyone in the group has been involved in a Romance Scam. You may also have private contact with any peer counselor you would like to help you. You may not have private contact with other members there until we have gotten to know you. Then you may post a request to the member you wish to communicate privately with. That person will publically answereither yes or no. You will find many people willing to talk to you if you post more messages there.

      • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

        Hi Larac

        How are you? Today the bank i have taken a loan and i had no to pay money for that said that they will give me a lower percent and gave me the possibility to pay less every month This was a breath for me because i owed the bank and had not to pay Now i have to deal with the taxes which i also leave unpaid I hope that my archangel will help me Do you know Larac how i can post a photo at the forum? I hope you are good and getting better every day

        Pavlina

        Στις Κυριακή, 29 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

        > RomanceScams commented: “Pavlina, I believe you have joined our Yahoo > email support group. You may ask any questions there, ask for support, > share your story and your feelings. Everyone there will understand what you > have been through because everyone in the group has been involv” >

  31. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Hi Larac

    I have already send the i formation and photos where you said
    I cannot apply here nowhere about scammers because they know nothing
    about it also cannot go to police because they will blame me for sending money

    Pavlina

    about it

  32. LaraC says:

    Hi Pavlina

    That is a good news about the bank! 🙂
    Of all what happened to you I hope you can collect what was shuttered piece by piece. 🙂

    The forum you are talking about is this on this website I told you about? – since I think I told you few web site not sure which one you are talking about.

    http://www.romancescam.com

    To post photos you may refer this Q&A but you can also the moderator to do that for you too. Moderators there are very kind and cooperative, you can send them the photos and they will post photos to your post. – you need to create the post first.

    http://www.romancescam.com/forum/faq.php (safe link approved)

    You said you haven’t reported it to the authority yet?
    It is up to you if you wanna do it no one can force you. However, authority I dealt with locally did not make fun of me or anything. They took me in for the hearing and took memo for the details for filing. They later came back to me and told me they at least traced the email I gave them to Nigeria and Indonesia. But also told me they can’t do anything about it as I sent money to overseas and the phone number the scammers used were one of those any tourist would purchase at 7/11. Police went to the flat where scammers told me where he lives to find no trace of them. Police everything they could for me. This crime is nothing new. There are many victims. Local newspapers report about this few times a year at least. Biggest romance scam it took place in where I live was USD2.6M from one rich woman. She was scammed by the group of global criminal syndicate who pretended they were police by phone calls.

    Now this situation could be different for you if you live in a small town or in the village where everybody knows everybody else. I live in the city of population with 7 million.

    But if you are ready, I suggest you to talk to the police. But please be minded that they can’t help you or help with your money. Your report will only help indirectly in the very small scale to raise awareness for this crime amongst authority. That s how authority/beaurocracy works. They can only respond to the demand they don’t act proactively. So more report means a pressure for them to do something about it. – doesn’t mean they do.

    So I don’t mean to tell you to do it but if you are ready you may. 🙂

    Lara

    • LaraC says:

      PS: It is primarily important that you recover from fresh wounds first. Talking about it to the 3rd party even that is a police could harm your feelings further. Which you may read about it in the website I posted about Romance Scam Survivor.

      http://romancescamsurvivor.org/2016/09/victim-blaming-endemic-in-romance-scams/

      Sometimes your best friend could show you unfavourable reaction to you too going “How could you do that?!” but that’s only because they don’t know how to react to the situation. They don’t mean to hurt you. But because of their ignorance on the issue their reactions may harm you if you are at the very 1st stage of recovery.

      This is what I mean by “only if you are read” to talk about it to the 3rd party.
      And if you are not ready, as the blogger of this website suggested it is best to only keep it with the other victims because we understand you. We were all in the same shoes of various stages of recovery. For me, thanks for asking how I am doing I have recovered completely. But I guess recovery depends on the scale of the damage it did to you. And in forums you can find someone of the same depth of situation.

      All for now. 🙂

    • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

      Hi Lara

      I have discovered that i was scammed only a month now I have tried to find the picture of the man i was in love but could not I was crazy for him The site i am visiting is yahoo romscam I believe that scammers have visited very recently Greece and that i was one of their first victims I cant go to the police because they dont know what scammer is and because they will blame me of sending money because of capital controls Do you think Lara that if i went to ghanas embassy i could do something? I leave in Athens where do you leave? That man on the photo i liked very much as if they already knew my taste At the beginning i wanted them to be punished now i understand this is not possible Now that they came also in Greece maybe they will start knowing of these monsters and say something about that How can they leave with themselves? Its another thing to steel money its another thing to kill for money and its another thing to use love and soul and mind of someone for money I want to post a photo Lara can you post it for me because i have tried and could not

      When it comes to scammers justice is not blind

      All the best

      Pavlina Στις Τρίτη, 31 Ιανουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog < comment-reply@wordpress.com > έγραψε:

      > LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina That is a good news about the bank! 🙂 Of all > what happened to you I hope you can collect what was shuttered piece by > piece. 🙂 The forum you are talking about is this on this website I told > you about? – since I think I told you few web ” >

      • LaraC says:

        Hi Pavlina

        Do you have the photos or not? If you do, you can ask the Romance Scam blogger on this website to post it for you. Follow her instruction here, see I copied & pasted her post for you to follow.

        What makes you think the scammer(s) were in Greece? Did they have a local Greece phone number? Otherwise, or even so, it is easy for them to pretend that they are in wherever they claim to be. Also why Ghana?

        You can send the photos of your scammer to the following email address.

        ——————————————————————
        COPY & PASTE:

        REPORT SCAMMER PHOTOS:

        SEND SCAMMER PHOTOS as attachment in jpeg format to;

        tammilee13@yahoo.com (safe link)

        In the subject line type “SCAMMER PHOTO”
        (if the photo is a soldier please type Military Impostor).
        In the text message box include the scammer name and the website you met.

        Please allow 2 weeks for the photos to be posted in the RS Scammer Album, our volunteer receives hundreds of reported scammer photos per week. Members will not be notified when the photos are added to the album.If in 3 weeks the scammer photo does not appear please resend the photo as yahoo might to be sure they have not been lost in the delivery process.
        ——————————————-
        REPORT SCAMMER CONTACT DATA;Include Accomplices contact data also.

        SEND SCAMMER PERSONAL CONTACT INFORMATION to,

        scam_data@yahoo.com (underscore between scam_data)

        Include:
        scammer alias “user ID” name,
        email address,
        phone numbers,
        physical mailing address,
        city, state/providence, and country.

        Passport number and information with picture, if you have been sent this information

        Include all Accomplices Contact Information also.
        Include all accomplices contact information; children, doctor, barrister, lawyer, aunt, uncle, hotel manager, driver, etc

        If you would like more information and support, please join our Yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams. (safe link) Everyone there has been scammed and will understand your feelings and concerns about this.
        Reply

      • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

        Hi Lara

        I mean that the scammers are not in Greece but the have started to look for victims niw in greece too I have send the photo and the love letters to male scam romance and they gave slready posted it I have asked them if they can find who is the real man at the photo Lara i am so curious to learn about that man his name his age i am supposed to be In love with him for 9 months Do you know maybe hiw i can get information about that man on the photo? Also i want to tell you something I have an inspuration of writing a book about my adventure with scammers i call it with the dragon “the dragon of Ghana” Although i have started i am not yet in a position to write the love mails of the scammer If i feel better later and still have inspiration maybe i will continue

        Pavlina Στις Τετάρτη, 1 Φεβρουαρίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

        > LaraC commented: “Hi Pavlina Do you have the photos or not? If you do, you > can ask the Romance Scam blogger on this website to post it for you. Follow > her instruction here, see I copied & pasted her post for you to follow. > What makes you think the scammer(s) were” >

      • RomanceScams says:

        Pavlina, we are advised by law enforcement not to attempt to find the real person in the pictures we have been sent. This person(S) is another innocent victim. He has no connection to the things that were written or spoken tomUo. He has most likely already been advised by law enforcement that his pictures are being used.There have been cases where a Romance Scam victim tracked down and communicated with the photo victim. These cases end badly. If the photo victim married, his spouse may come to believe that he knows this person contacting him and is romantically involved, no matter what is said to deny that. A marriage can be destroyed because of the curiosity of the RS victim. There have been suicides of photo victims pursued by RS victims. If the scammer claims to be in the military, please read the information here: Army.CID.Crime.Tips@mail.mil (safe link)

        Please try not to be frustrated when you don’t get a response from agencies you have reported the scam to. Their investigations are ongoing and involve gathering data from all reports. Unless there is a very large sum of money (one million dollars) you will not hear from law enforcement. You should receive a case number if you report to IC3 at https://www.ic3.gov/complaint/default.aspx (safe link)

        This is a time for you to take care of yourself, to begin to heal. We learn to let go of the need to find the scammers, the photo victims; to get revenge, to see justice done. Very few countries have extradition rights with Nigeria and Ghana, countries where the majority of scams originate. With the law enforcement agencies often taking bribes, or arresting scammers only for a day or two, then releasing them, with true identities unknown and unknowable, finding particular scammers is like looking for a particular grain of sand on a beach. Reporting is encouraged for two reasons. It gives law enforcement an idea of how widespread this kind of crime has become and what new approaches the scammers are using. This helps in their general, rather than specific investigations as well as in the warnings they issue to the public. The other reason is because it creates a new sense of empowerment for us, allowing us to begin to heal. We need to move past the scam itself and learn to reclaim our lives.

        Please take care of yourself. Write your book as long as it makes you stronger and does not keep you immersed in pain.

      • LaraC says:

        Hi Pavlina

        About you trying to look for the identity of the man in the photo. I agree with everything RomanceScams said above. It will do no good for you. It will only make you cling onto the illusion that this guy you thought you were in love actually exists. He doesn’t exist. You don’t fall in love for a guy’s look, do you? You will need to be on the mend course of letting that illusion go not to bring it back into your life.

        Although if you wanna know the source of original of the photos you may reverse Google image, that easy. You will probably see the same photos posted and abused by different groups of scammers to hundreds of different women. Likely, someone have reported the photo is a scam online somewhere. And if not, you should post the photo so that it will warn the others.

        You said about writing a book. I instead suggest setting up a blog – like this one. People don’t buy your book unless you are a qualified therapist or a professionals in dealing with fraud. And when you setup a blog, I suggest you write in Greek particularly if there aren’t many romance scams victims around in Greece yet. But you maybe surprised you might receive so many responses. With your blog, your warning, you may be able to save your sisters and brothers from your own country from the scams.

        🙂

        And I still don’t know what makes you think the ground operators (scammers) you encountered with are from Ghana. Many of them are from Nigeria and also Russia too.

  33. escaped says:

    Dear all,
    I am not sure but I think I might have escaped a potential scammer. We became friends on FB about couple of months ago. I accepted him out of curiosity as he was quite good looking. Claims to be from Birmingham, uK and is an engineer of some sort. Has teenage son and daughter. I even became friends on FB with his daughter. We chatted on and off and due to time differences we rarely had time to chat for long time. He was always busy with meetings and could gone off line for 15-16 hrs. He had a very few friends on FB and so did his daughter. Once he even showed list of FB friends he had and there were seven of them. I wanted to make sure he was not a scammer and demanded he take picture of himself as where he was but he could never do that coming up with excuses. He did send pictures of him and his kids but were not recent ones. He never asked for money and in fact even offered to pay for my flights for my conference for which of course I refused. We did voice talk for few seconds but it was so noisy on his side I could not recognise his accent but it did not sound British. When I told him that from thereon he did not raise the idea of talking at all. Anyway at the moment he his, presumably in Malaysia for some project and then few moments ago he said he has been robbed yesterday off his wallet with ATM card.I told him to get his daughter to send him money and he said he did. Then he said what about me sending him small amount to show that I cared. I jokingly asked are you one of those online scammers people warned me of. he said what take your money and run? and I said yes. and told him I have no money. he said that was ok although it was inconvenient and then he blocked me!! I was surprised. Did he block me because what I said to him hurt him or because he was really a scammer? I have another FB account and I see he is still there on FB. I also know two people I know are his friends too. Should I warn them? What if I am wrong? I have also blocked his daughter but I am assailed with doubts. What if I am wrong and he blocked me because what I said hurt him?

    • RomanceScams says:

      Dea Escaped.
      You have indeed escaped from a scammer, or rather scammers. They work in groups of 4 -10 men with one of them being most experienced and in charge. They are scamming many victims at the same time. They don’t want to accidentally call anyone by the wrong name so they use “baby, babe, sweetie, Hon, honey, silly girl, etc). They don’t use these words because they are in love with you. The pictures you saw were stolen from social media or photoshopped. They are not pictures of the men in contact with you. The need to replace a cell phone or laptop is common. So is having someone pose as a son or daughter or even a mother. Those are fake FB pages.

      The story you were told by the scammers is very familiar, a standard script with a few variations. The scammer says he is from your country, but his job as an engineer, gem dealer, consultant, etc. takes him to another country. That is where the stories of problems start ; an accident, robbery, taxes to pay, a child needing help with education expenses or to visit the parent or recover from an illness, and so on. None of it is true. They are most likely in Nigeria or Ghana. The person in the role of the daughter is more likely to be a man than a women. Do not cause yourself unnecessary anguish wondering if he is real. This is a scammer, no doubts at all.

      So, he blocked you when you had questions and would not send money. The offer to send you money was either just to show himself as caring and generous or to see if you would accept a money order or check which would turn out to be counterfeit after you had spent it, so you would end up paying the bank back for whatever you had spent. This is what you need to do. You should not try to reach him. Not one more word! Block all means of contact you had. Report him to Facebook, the daughter too. You can send copies of the photos to our scammer album and file a report with us. Here are the instructions:

      REPORT SCAMMER PHOTOS:

      SEND SCAMMER PHOTOS as attachment in jpeg format to;   

      tammilee13@yahoo.com  (safe link)

      In the subject line type “SCAMMER PHOTO”
      (if the photo is a soldier please type Military Impostor).
      In the text message box include the scammer name and the website you met.

      Please allow 2 weeks for the photos to be posted in the RS Scammer Album, our volunteer receives hundreds of reported scammer photos per week. Members will not be notified when the photos are added to the album.If in 3 weeks the scammer photo does not appear please resend the photo as yahoo might to be sure they have not been lost in the delivery process.
      ——————————————-
      REPORT SCAMMER CONTACT DATA;Include Accomplices contact data also.

      SEND SCAMMER PERSONAL CONTACT INFORMATION to,

      scam_data@yahoo.com  (underscore between scam_data)

      Include:
      scammer alias “user ID” name,
      email address,
      phone numbers,
      physical mailing address,
      city, state/providence, and country.

      Passport number and information with picture, if you have been sent this information

      Include all Accomplices Contact Information also.
      Include all accomplices contact information; children, doctor, barrister, lawyer, aunt, uncle, hotel manager, driver, etc

      If you would like more information and support, please join our Yahoo email group at http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams. (safe link) Everyone there has been scammed and will understand your feelings and concerns about this.

    • LaraC says:

      Malaysia is a huge hub for the African scammers. They get student visas to Malaysia easily of course they don’t go to school they go to Malaysia for one purpose, to do scam operations. They operate from Malaysia on the ground. They ask you to send money to Malaysia. You may Google “African Scam Malaysia” and read some articles for your self.

      🙂

  34. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Hi Lara

    I dont think that it helps me to report the crime to an authority since they can do nothing
    The Cid Didnt give me also a No when i reported
    I want to learn about that person on the photo i will not communucate with him to embarasse him i excpect nothing from him
    But dont i have the right to learn information about the man in the photo?
    Also Lara i want your opinion if you can
    What do you believe about the Economical and crime investigation office ghana? Why they didnt give an answer to my report? I think they also are protecting scammers

    Pavlina

    • RomanceScams says:

      Pavlina, no, you do not have a right to find out who the person in the photo is. That is an invasion of that person’s privacy. You have no right at all to know where he lives, what he does for a living, if he is married, etc. he has absolutely no connection to you. He never talked or wrote to you, doesn’t know who you are, and doesn’t want to know who was fooled by the photos that were stolen from him. He is a victim of the scammers because his image was used to fool people. Here is no reason for you to have any information about him.

      If you read my previous answer about reporting, you will understand why you do not get a response to your reports. So many thousands of people have been scammed that the investigators cannot respond to each one. As far as the economic and crime investigation office in either Ghana or Nigeria – there are some dishonest people in those agencies who get money from the scammers to look away from the criminal activity. Others are honest, but overwhelmed by the amount of work they have to do. So we do not expect answers to our reports to them. It is still important to make those reports as I explained to you in my previous reply.

      Pavlina, none of these concerns about who the scammers were, about the photo victim, about the law enforcement agencies, are helping you. What happened to you is in the past. Now is the time for dealing with your emotions, for taking care of your health, to looking towards the future. If you think my words are too harsh, please remember that I and the other counselors have been through this too. We speak from our own experience and the experiences of hundreds and hundreds of other victims who come to Romance Scams. We want to help every victim to understand what has happened, to teach them how to recognize scams, to take steps to stay safe and to begin to heal. We understand that it is a big step to accept what has happened and move on. It is not easy, but it can be done. You can do this.

    • LaraC says:

      Hi Pavlina

      Again, much the same comment as RomanceScams above. For Economical Crime Investigation Office Ghana, I am guessing you mention of Ghana because you sent money to Ghana?

      I sent money to London and I have reported it to the authority in the UK. No reply. All I can do is to hope that they are doing investigation on big scale (not just my case) or taking preventive action against the fraud and that somehow my report does help their investigation a tiny wee bit.

      I don’t think the ECIOG is setup to protect the scammers but I think they’re extremely corrupt. Don’t know that of Ghana but some report says scam business is the 3rd largest economical activities in Nigeria so it is easy to guess the government authority is deeply involved in it.

  35. escaped says:

    Dear Admins,
    going through the posts has helped me a lot. I did not lose my money or heart but I am still agog with surprise how smooth and clever they are but I did notice at the end most end up going to Malaysia. I tried to join yahoo group but I was not able to. Do we have to have yahoo email id, admins? I am afraid for one of my friends too. I feel that he is being scammed but he is like an ostrich with his head buried in the sand and refuses to believe he is being scammed. He won’t appreciate me telling his story here. I want to get your opinion and support as to how to support him in private group. Thank you

    • RomanceScams says:

      No it is not necessary to have a yahoo email address. You should have an email address that does not have your name in it. I am uncertain why you couldn’t join the group. Were you in the right place? http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/RomanceScams (Safe link)
      There should be a place with the word “join” or “join this group”. If your email address is typed carefully there should not be a problem. If you can get in, you can contact any peer counselor privately. Our email addresses are shown under our names in the messages we post. My name is Kathy. Write another message here if you still cannot get into the group.

      It’s understandable that your friend won’t consider that he is being scammed. The scammers are very skilled at social profiling so they know just what to say and do to reel their victim in. They use conditioning to get us anticipating the next text or email or phone call at certain times. It is a bit like brainwashing. All you can do is ask if he is willing to look at the RS web pages to see if any of the information seems familiar.

  36. Pavlina Valavanidoy says:

    Hi Lara

    I send my money to Ghana through western union money gram and Bank this is why i am sure i have been scamned from Africa Ghana
    As for the eciog i am very sorry that they do nothing because they have a lot of currency incoming
    How corrupted they are in these countries of Africa
    I though them as frends when speaking with them
    I have tried to find the photo through google reverse but nothing
    I dont like the idea of having a site and informing Greek people
    I want to be able write my book i have inspiration of what happened to me
    If i can write it and if it is good then people will be informed that way
    I will call it THE DRAGON OF GHANA

    PAVLINA

    • LaraC says:

      If you have transferred the scammers the money through the banks not WU (Western Union) or MG (MoneyGram), you should definitely report to the police with the bank a/c information because unlike WU or MG, bank transfers can be traced.

  37. captain william henry his bank manager Peter blessing of fidelity.bank00012@gmail.com said that the bank is closing soon he sent documents of how much I will receive of William henry money if I pay 2200aud.they have been telling me that the bank was closing for about 3 months now and if I don’t pay william will loose all his savings. William is using.captain mark dexter photo and swears that’s him but it’s not in have asked for a photo of William but he seems to avoid my questions what do you make of this?like to know asap

    • LaraC says:

      While Fidelity Bank does exists, they don’t use Gmail as you know.

      “Bank manager Peter” is an imaginary person created by your scammer(s). If you heard from “Bank Manager Peter” over Skype or phone calls it is one of them (a group of scammers you are in contact with right now) pretending.

      It is good that you posted this email address here so if anyone else who are in contact with the scammer pretending they’re Fidelity Bank will find out this post and will be alerted. 🙂

    • LaraC says:

      BTW old do not confront the scammers. Do not tell them that now you know this is a scam and that you know William or Bank Manager Peter do not exist. Reason for this is then they will plant your computer and mobile whichever you are using to communicate with these scammers malware to steel your information from the device to use it against to you.

      So pls block this scammer immediaty without giving any notice. Make them look foolish. They will spend a day thinking why on earth you disappeared all the sudden. What they said or did wrong . That s the best you can do an impact on them nothing else. Pls do now tell scammers how you noticed that they are scammers. It will only educate them to do better on the next victim, you don’t want that!

      • LaraC says:

        Correction: Pls do NOT tell scammers how you noticed that they are scammers. It will only educate them to do better on the next victim, you don’t want that!

  38. since chatting with you I have blocked Peter blessing but I think the person who says that he is henry william is using captain mark dexter profile photo

    • LaraC says:

      Good that you blocked the scammers. Now I think you can relax.
      If no one else has reported about Captain Mark Dexter’s photo are being abused for the scam and if you want to warn others, you may post those photos you received with the information about the scammers disguised under “Henry William” here. Better if you have their Skype ID, phone number they used etc. Please read their guidelines first and follow how others have reported about the scam.

      http://romancescam.com/

    • LaraC says:

      Actually I just found the report on the same website about this Captain Mark Dexter’s photos being abused by the scammers in 2016. – probably by the same scammers probably by other scammers. Since I am a member of this website, I will update them the new name and email address of Henry William for you so you don’t have to. Let me know if you have more information about them. Thanks.

      http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=102169

  39. thank you for your reply. William henry says that he has savings and if I don’t pay he will loose his savings of a very large amount of money because the fidelity bank is closing it’s doors. I asked him if the profile is his and is that his wife he said yes but she died 5 years ago and I said well.the person who profile you are using his wife isn’t dead.please put it out there as I’m sure he will try and scam some one else.

    • LaraC says:

      Stories are irelevent while the tactics and their (scammers) new information are. Their wives are always dead so are their parents and their siblings (Or they are the only child). If you see a little boy in the photo they tell you it s their son. They use fake sons/daughters to get money out of you but wives must be dead because they need to create the condition for you that you are the only person they can relay on during the up coming fake plight situation whete they will be asking you money. (Or asking you to receive a parcels or asking your bank account information etc)

      If you are stilm in contact with “Henry Williams” pls drop all the contact without telling him now you know he is a scammer(s).

      Do never tell him he is posted in here or elsewhere. That will only educate them, the scammers behind Henry Williams.

  40. thank you i will and I have not told him any thing he wants to marry me because he wants me to receive his money but that won’t be happening in have all ready spent Money before I started to work things out .

  41. william sent me msg that he wants pay 2200aud to claim his funds of 750000 then send back 4300 so he can buy his ticket from the states to Australia. then he wants to marry me so he can claim his funds. he has been pushing me to pay he keeps saying that he needs my help or he will. loose his money ??

    • LaraC says:

      Hi

      Thought you blocked the scammers already. If you hadn’t please block. They will keep asking you until things get nasty with you and when things get nasty they will start threating you and when you are adamant to keep saying No or tell them now you know they are the scammers they will plant a malware into your phone/computer so please block this contact RIGHT NOW and never contact them or receive contact from them never again.

  42. yes I did block the Peter now I’m about to block william I thank you for your help and support

    • LaraC says:

      Yes. Block all the contacts with all the scammers. They will push ways in from every method possible to steal your money in whatever the way they can. They have no limit and they have nothing to lose – except for their time.

      And take a goos care of your self. 🙂

  43. Lilly says:

    About 4 weeks ago I set a profile on Ok Cupid. Immediately I received several messages with greetings. I answered a “hello” response to a few of them. This particular guy that went by the name “Antonio” wrote to me and expressed how he liked my profile. We exchanged conversations throughout the day through Ok Cupid. He even messaged me a love poem, which I found odd. That evening he asked if we could exchange numbers. I did not answer his message but again he asked the following day so I agreed. He immediately said how captivated he was when he saw my photo. Before the second day was done he was telling me things like…. I’m looking for someone to become my wife & make a life with Jim. I noticed that his writing was at times very broken (misspellings)… So I asked where was he from. He said he was from Venezuela but born in Orlando. I think because I did so much research before even considering a dating site, that I was over the top “alert”…. so because I did not feel “comfortable” I began asking questions… things like: Do you have an ex-wife? Do you have children? What do you do for a living? Questions along that line!
    So, here it is in case you run into him…
    He likes to shower you with poems (mainly through email)
    His English is very broken (writing)
    Does not ask to talk via phone (just text)
    Will send you multiple photos (even with a parrot)
    He says his wife died & he has been alone for 5 years
    He claims to work for the Marriott & has traveled to many places.
    He says his two children are in boarding school (that was the deal breaker😂)
    And let me not forget… his email address is ANTONIOLUCAS459@YAHOO.COM
    This went on for a couple of days and I found it strange that he never asked if we could meet somewhere for coffee. Needless to say I knew he was not real because a guy that looked the way he did could not possibly be by himself for five years.
    So I started to asked many confrontational questions
    that he would avoid answering.
    I finally had enough of his stupidity and I flat out confronted him by letting him know I knew he was an online scammer. Never again heard from him😂😂
    Bravo to me because for a first time online person I did not fall for a trap! Woo~hoo!!! I was not on that site not even a week!!! He cured me and my friend who insisted I go on a dating site! Boom👊🏻

    • LaraC says:

      Congrats for fending off the scanners. I am sire that profile was scammer too. Sometimes it is easy to tell that they are the scammers like in your case in which bombering you with poems sometimes it is hard to tell whether they are spammers untile they come to asking money part.

      But pls do never confront scammers that you found out that they are the scammers. That will only educate them to do it better next time. Best is to block them immediately without a word to make them look so dumb. – make them wonder why all the sudden you dissapeared.

      Thanks 🙂

      Lara

      • Pavlina Valavanidou says:

        Hi Lara

        Its about two months now that i discovered the scam I find myself this period missing the mails i was receiving from the scamner and i am feeling sorry Is that normal?

        Pavlina

        Στις Δευτέρα, 6 Μαρτίου 2017, ο χρήστης Romance Scams Blog έγραψε:

        > LaraC commented: “Congrats for fending off the scanners. I am sire that > profile was scammer too. Sometimes it is easy to tell that they are the > scammers like in your case in which bombering you with poems sometimes it > is hard to tell whether they are spammers untile they c” >

      • RomanceScams says:

        Pavlina, it is normal to still feel bad after 2 months. We all heal at our own pace, in our own time. But is you mean you are felling sorry for the “person” who was in contact with you because of all of his troubles, then you need to concentrate on reminding yourself that this person did not and does not exist. The problems were made up, just like the name. When we become victims of a romance scam, before we realize what is happening, we are in love with all the positive attention we receive, all the kind, caring and loving words, all the promises. We become addicted to those messages. Our longing for those words does nor hope away quickly or easily. We have to remember that those words were all lies, not any person’s true feelings for us. If you received a beautiful bouquet of flowers, but there was a warning attached to them that if you inhaled the lovely fragrance for a week, you would become very ill, would you keep those poison flowers? I think you would throw them away and look for real flowers that do not contain poison.

        Please try not to think with longing of the words you received from the scammers. They were poisonous, just like the flowers!

  44. LaraC says:

    Hi.

    It was a documentary TV programme made by Australians and as you know Australia is anti-romance-scam advanced country and their whole point wasn’t leading victims in believing their scammers would one day “confess” their crimes but it was more about what makes them become scammers and their perspectives of getting involved in scam businesses. As you stated, the guy also believed he had every single right to steel money from people in rich countries because of their poverty and the world being unfair towards Africa. After he fell for the victim it suffered him and only after he returned all the money and confessed her his crime he said it freed him. He cut the contacts with the victim and walked away from scam businesses. It was a programme about a criminal’s rehabilitation though I thought a single repent should not free him from guilt and thought he should carry the cross for rest of his life. He is a young man.

    And no this does NOT happen. As far as i know this is the only case. Only one in the million. And to be honest if anyone (victim) saw that programme and wants to believe they are the one in the million then so be it. They might be one in the million but there are millions of them believing the same in this world.

    We can’t stop everyone from falling for crimes or can’t save all of them from what already happened to them.

    But the programmes like that should educate many people with no idea about the world of scams and it would warn people to prevent them from falling for it.

    Lara

  45. RomanceScams says:

    Lara, I think I saw this same video almost a year ago. I agree that this man seemed very sincere. I hope it was a true story, that there is within these scammers the smallest bit of humanity that would allow them to change. I certainly seems to be very rare. Even the scammers who call themselves Christian are influenced by native religious practices similar to voodoo. It becomes a blended religion, also infused with those beliefs about Americans especially. The believe that we are all wealthy and that if we lose money to scammers, our “Uncle Sam” will make it up to us! Wouldn’t that be lovely!

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